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Question

I love my wife with all my heart, but she is very overweight (I mean she has no figure at all because she is so big). She is really upset with me because our love making is not passionate and it is hard for me to be really passionate towards her because of her size. I have only ever told her that I love her but when she has asked why our love making is not passionate, I have explained to her that the more I can see of her figure, the more excited I get for her. I have never told her she was too big or anything like that (I would never do that). She still gets upset because our love making is not passionate enough and I don't know what to tell her anymore, I just keep saying the same thing and she still gets mad at me. What can I do?

Answer 1

Close your eyes and replay your favorite porn scene in your head while you pump away.

Answer 2

Be supportive. Tell her that you are concerned about her weight because of her health. Don't let her know that you are not sexually attracted to her anymore-this will only lower her self-esteem and cause more self-destruction. Let her know that you want to spend the rest of your life with her and that you want the rest of your lives to be as long as possible.

Try not to eat any fatty or unhealthy foods around her and don't keep junk food in the house. Eat what she is eating-if you do it with her, she'll have a chance of losing more weight and feel like you are both leading a more healthy lifestyle. This will definitely be more encouraging to her.

As far as exercising, go on walks with her at first. Start out going as far as she can, which if she's excessively overweight, may not be far. Slowly build up to walking 5-10 miles per day (this may take some time). If she complains about the heat, go to an indoor mall with AC.

Let your wife know that you made a commitment to her to take care of her, and that's what you want to do. There will be ups and downs, just be supportive.

Also, don't let people criticize you on your problem, obesity is an issue that is hard to understand unless you or someone that you have known has experience with it. You obviously love your wife, if you didn't, you would have left already.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm guessing she has gained this weight since you've been married. If that's the case then why don't you try getting her to join a fitness club with you. You could both workout together and then you could fake passion for her. Honestly if you can't even fake it for her then that's sort of sad. Has it ever occured to you that she may not be happy? I don't know of any obese person who can say that they are truly happy with everything. Maybe you should talk to her about what would make her happy. If she says sex and passion then you'll just have to delve deeper and ask her what would make it more passionate for her. If you really do love her with all your heart then I don't see any reason why you can't find it in your heart to physically love her the way she needs it to be. Best wishes

Answer 4

O dear. That's a difficult one. First of all, How does she feel about her weight? It's so difficult actually to answer this. Try and motivate her in maybe doing more of the work_if she's able to. Try and work up a sweat. Try helping her lose the weight, encourage her. Um I know if you look at you loved one and you don't feel attracted your not as "hot" as you might want to be. Maybe try and imagine some one else while doing it, and you might also try and spice it up by trying to dress up like someone else. Buy her nice and sexy underwear.

Answer 5

Maybe you can tell her that you would like to start leading a healthier lifestyle and would love for her to join you in changing both of your diets, and possibly joining a gym together. Tell her you both can support eachother. Also does she bike ride? something you both can do maybe together also. You have to be supportive. Usually people that are overweight are not happy with themselves and do want to lose weight.

Answer 6

you'll have to tell her this, just choose the right words, further more offer to help by preparing the low-calorie/fat foods, work out with her at the gym, don't eat fries in front of her, show her its not that big a deal and be clear that its her choice to loose weight or not and you'll still love her no matter what.

Answer 7

What u can do is...get over it! Did u marry for her for her figure or cuz u lover her??? You say u love her with all your heart....then size should not matter!!! Don't be shallow! I'm 24...I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. He has put on about 50lbs since we started dating....went from 200 to about 250. I still love him to death! If he gained another 50lbs I would still love him to death! Get my point??

Answer 8

Why don't you try taking walks with her holding hands. You also never say if you are in prime shape or overweight yourself. Put a little romance in your life. Change eating habits for both of you. If you are eating what she is eating it helps.

Answer 9

I think u should tell her tto go on a diet but not the wayshe gets hurt u know ur wife more and u will find the way to tell. cuz I think body its so important.

Answer 10

my boyfriend also wants me to lose weight. i am not fat.. but need to lose those flabby thighs n tummy.. he feels sex ll be better only if both the partners r fit.. to roll over.. i dont feel hurt when he says i need to tone up.. so just tell her very casually durin a conversation... i know it wont hurt her.. after all u love her n she loves u! am sure u wont hurt each other.DIET & WALKING... both these togeher will surely make ur wife sexy as she is always!wish u all success! happy married life!

Answer 11

You have to work this out with her. Go with her to the gym or out running in the morning. Make it a team effort, and let her know you love her and you're there to support her.