Is it good for a married woman to fall in love with another man.?

Question

extra-marital affair

Answer 1

um NO! you're supposed to get married for LOVE. did you not love the person you first married? once your'e in love, you shouldn't be allowig yourself to fall in love with someone else. bad you!

Answer 2

I am not here to judge you, and there is no sin or shame in falling in love, it is only under particular circumstances that some people would render it sinful.
Being married of course does not make the ideal situation to begin any new relationship in, outwith your marriage, but as we know these things happen in life.
But lets be realistic to and remember sometimes these relationships can cause a whole lot more pain than what they are worth and it can devastate not only partners but children to if this was ever discovered.
Having an affair can sometimes lead to a more loving, happier fulfilling relationship than the previous one, then of course, some people would say yes it can be good, its the situation it started under that wasn't good.

However, you should think very carefully about what you are prepared to risk. Is the other man single? married? living with a partner? Whats his intentions? Is he willing to leave his partner? etc etc

My advice would be if your looking to have an affair, then do the decent thing, and leave the marriage first because its obvious you are no longer in love with your partner, or is it a case you are wanting your cake and eating it at the same time? Have you even tried at sorting out whatever problems you may have in your marriage first?. I think its these questions and many others is something you have to ask yourself first.

Answer 3

Its not really a stupid question, the only stupidity shown, is that of the people that of the morons wasting their time telling you they think its stupid!!

Being married doesn't make u exempt from having feelings for someone else! Its a certificate you receive once your married, not some magic potion that will stop feelings for other people!

It depends what the relationship is like that the married woman is in, it might be an abusive or violent marriage, which would obviously steer the woman to someone else-someone that treats her the way she deserves to be treated with....respect.

Or maybe the marriage is basically over, and now all that's left to do is to kick the habit!! The fact that the woman has found someone else, might have just hurried up the process?

At the end of the day, if the marriage is going nowhere then no, its not wrong...its just time to move on, stop wasting your life with someone u dont really want to be with!!

Whatever the reason is, i dont think its anyones business really!!!

Answer 4

You made your vows, you need to keep them. Sit down and talk with your husband about the problems that you are having that are making you run to another man. You obviously loved your husband at one point, Sit back and think of the things that made you fall in love with him. Make a list, and tell him to do the same, then exchange the list and each of you try to accomodate the other. Another good idea, is start going on 'dates' where you get all dressed, and he picks you up at your door, ect. You'd be surprised at how quick this will help

Good luck but don't do anything stupid. You ARE married and that should mean something to you. Just know that even if you left your husband for this other man, the new man would not trust you because he's seen you cheat in the past.

Answer 5

No, not at all. Would it be good for your husband to fall in love with another woman and have an affair? Didn't think so.

Answer 6

well no, i would not think that would be good as you are married. which is more important...yer marriage or the other person?

I do feel that you should not cheat or have an affair...just wrong in my book...if you have fallen in love with another man and fallen out of love with your hubby and that can not be fixed, then it is time to let go of yer marriage and move on.

extra marital affair....no, not good for anyone involved

Answer 7

Of course it isn't good. If you decide to pursue a sexual relationship with this man while your're married it's called adultery. If you've fallen in love with this guy then possibly your husband is not fulfilling your needs anymore. If things have started to go stale in your marriage talk to your husband about it and give him a chance to try to make things right. While you're trying to work things out with your husband stop seeing this other guy because the more attention you give him the less you'll give to your marriage. If after trying you believe that it wont work between you and your husband then leave him but please don't cheat on him because it is the most selfish thing you can do and you'll destroy him.

Answer 8

You know what? You only believe that you're in love with this new man, but it's not true. It might happen this way, cause you see your husband with all his flaws as you share same house. But all men are like this. If you don't live with them, you think they are perfect, and you fall in love, but the love decreases after marriage when seing his bad parts, also. What makes you think that the new man has only good parts? You might make a mistake by asking for divorce and moving with this new one and after 3 months to discover he is exactly like your husband. Dont believe in this kind of love.

Answer 9

hum...i was in love with a man that had a girl friend and son. his relationship was down the drain, he left the girlfriend, then oops, she's pregnant!...yup, guess where that left me...alone and in love. I moved on, found a new love, but this new love has never been and will never be like the love i shared with the other man. I'm married and still love this other man. sometimes it frustrates me cause now he's single after all these years and I'm not. so mentally and emotionally, it's hard to be in love with two people. sometimes i feel drawn to the other man...but is this only cause i know he's single......if he wasn't single would i still feel this way...god only knows...i guess it's better to have loved then to not have loved at all.

Answer 10

What you should be saying to yourself is "I remember when I felt like this with "hubby" and how can I get that back?" It is never good for any married person to fall in love with someone else. Why go there? It can't be better than the reasons why you married your husband.

Answer 11

Linda, before asking this question....visualise a scenario where your husband falls in love with someone. Understand the pain. You'll know what to decide then?
But if you're dying for the second guy, I suggest don't mess up. Choose to live with either of them. But leave one and be honest with the one u continue with.