Why does a MAN feel the needs to call a woman a whore after she rejects him?

Question

I found out on my own that being "cute, sexy, attractive " (or whatever superficial word you may use) is not an easy thing to deal with when you are a woman. You can not accept all men in your life. You may not like them all. Its only one you choose. So what is it inside the man, that makes him call you a whore or a slut or any other word that hurts just because you rejected him ( and i mean a polite reject not a "rub in his face or humiliating one). How come the initially love or attraction is converted in such a hurtfull hate. Whats the trigger inside the man to make him do that. Is it ego, is it pride, is it stupidity?

i add this for the one who think its the way i act.. i DID mention its not about me dressing provokative, nor being insensible with men... i really need to know why men act like that providing ALL THE DECENCY is in place from my side....i didnt post the question for men to go on with the "blame the woman".. but trying to understand me..and give them the benefit of the doubt..when they do that..some of the men are ( or where up to that point) good friends.. who really hurt you. If you feel like embarassing yourself with a "yes i am cool" andswer.. you might as well not answer at all

Answer 1

Any male that would do that is not a man, he is a little boy throwing a temper tantrum because he didn't get what he wanted and actually thinks by putting you down via an uncalled for putdown that he is gaining the upper hand under the childish notion that if he rejects you, you will want him.

Don't get upset, just laugh and tell that remark tells you all need to know about him and walk away.

Answer 2

Oh, you've hit on SUCH an important question. Not sure I have the answer but they probably learned to not feel good about themselves but DID learn that getting angry and striking out verbally or physically was their only possible response. Because if it wasn't the rejector that was "stupid, a b----", or some other bad work, THEY might be the problem and their fragile self esteem can't face that prospect.
In my mind, whoever taught them that abused them. Many of us are "bent"--some more than othelrs.
It is very good to hear that you think of youself as "cute, sexy, attractive." Thank your parents for me for having taught you well.

Answer 3

Not every man does this, but, we do joke around that a whore or a b*tch is any woman that is not f-ing you or something like that.

It may not mean much, but dont take it personal. The guy has problems. Many people do. Like the guy that flipped me off on the road - this means that he said to me F. U. If you let everything get to you then you will be miserable all the time.


Listen to that song that goes "Its a thin line between love and hate." Both of these emotions are very powerful. Thats why guys say shocking or surprising things to try to pick women up. We try to raise your emotions then massage them from goofy, thinking the guy is an idiot into positive, loving/lusty emotions.

Here is my pick up line that I use for every girl that I ever picked up. It works. You may not like it, but it works. I posted this to a guy that asked for the best pick up line and he gave me best answer and said it works like a charm. It is a charm.


Me to an unsuspecting girl: So when are you going to ask me to lunch?

Unsuspecting girl: Ask YOU to lunch? (Dismay is a powerful emotion and she counters this with what she really expected) When are YOU going to ask ME to lunch?

Me: Okay. Where would you like me to take you?

This works well for the clerk at the counter in the drug store or whereever that you see periodically. It does not work in a club so well because it is too noisy. I tried - replacing lunch with buying me a drink. But it just got the girl drinks and no date for me.

The point is that powerful emotional states can easily be switched into others.

I bet you are a nice girl. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Depends. A. are you a whore? if not why care what some guy you rejected said. B. Men tend to need to justify and action or a rejection to sooth the ego....make it ok they were rejected. Im not saying its right but it happens. Remember it is a thin line between love and hate. and While Hell have no wrath like a woman scorned, men have no kind words for a woman who politely or not rejects.

Answer 5

Ive found that the male ego is super sensitive, if they cant get a woman for some reason, they must say or do something to that woman to make her feel as if she has done something wrong, or has made a bad mistake.....its just "a guy thing"

Answer 6

Basically, it's because you teased the guy to the point his balls turned purple. Come on, sister. You want it both ways. You want to strut around in your slinky little outfit and draw attention to your yams. Yet as soon as a guy takes the bait you spring the bear trap on his nuts and reject the hell out of him.

I for one am sick of it, and I'm putting it on record for all you little ball teasers out there: EITHER GIVE IT UP OR WEAR SWEATPANTS WHEN YOU GO OUT TO SIGNAL YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED.

Now I suppose you're gonna say, "I wear these sexy outfits for me..." What a crock! This kind of behavior is what keeps the porn industry going.

Answer 7

To make himself feel better and to belittle her for her rejection. He got hurt and now he wants her to hurt. (Very insecure person with low self-esteem). He was never taught how to accept rejection.

Answer 8

Immature losers do that. Happened to me a while back but got over it. Be proud of your looks and dont let anyone put you down.

Answer 9

its an ego..especially if he gets women easily in the past. what happened to men liking challenges?

Answer 10

Stupidity of course!