they say that they are just friends but she sends him stuff knowing that it bothers me and it says that she loves him and he says it back and then he compares me to her and tells her when we are fighting never have i seen him tell her how much he loves me and that he is glad that we are married... this has been going on for a year and we have only been married a year and now im 5 months pregnant.... it makes me feel like im second best to her and that he loves her more then he loves me and our baby to be... please email and tell me what yal think @ chick_101_14@yahoo.com thank you... im thinking of leaving him for a while so he can figure out which one is more important to him the past or the future of his only child.
2006-07-19 00:46:48 · 12 answers · asked by MaRrIeDmAmA2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd kick his *** and ask for a divorce and demand alimony and child support and move on in life...believe a real man that truly loves you unconditionally will eventually come your way because he doesnt seem to love you the least little bit.
2006-07-19 01:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by rodaerc06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have been there and bought the T-shirt...... He is wrong for marrying you if he still loves his other woman.....but that is water under the bridge at this point....you are wrong for not putting an end to this sillyness from day one. If you are going to leave then make sure you are willing to stand by that decision. As his wife you have the right to demand that he makes a decision to either tell him to cease and desist all contact with this other woman.A. because it is disrespectful to you. B. If he is not smart enough to see it hurts you then I think you have your answer on why he really married you. You my dear were the "Get Over Girl". by marrying you he thought he get over the other or force the other woman to demand he return to her. Its a Crappy thing to do but both men and women do it for some stupid reason. Option C. if you love the man enough and he treats you like you should be treated then just deal with it. confront the other woman tell her you are extrememly uncomfortable with the situation and that she should respect your marriage and relationship and move on. I hope it helps. Remember the only real victim in this will be the child if you two don't work the situation out one way or the other. my email is lawkeeper99@yahoo.com if you need more detail of my situation.
2006-07-19 00:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by answering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, therapy would probably be the first step in salvaging your relationship. The thing is his connection with this other woman may never change but him honoring and respecting your marriage and family is essential. He must not only say he loves you but he must show a loving respect for you. If he is not willing to change his interaction this woman then this is a sign that he is not committed to your relationship. For some, its not enough to believe someone is with them out of obligation. It's time to ask the hard question about your relationship, hear the answer and make the changes that help achieve more satisfying lifestyle.
2006-07-19 01:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating on you, he's gonna leave you soon from the sounds of it. At the moment, I think he won't divorce you because of his baby to be. If they're acting like such lovebirds, they're gonna be having sex and stuff, and yeah, he's trying to keep a family and a mistress at the same time. Don't put up with that immature, insecure garbage that he's trying to pull. If it was HIM who wanted the kid, and you don't want it, don't have it anymore, get an abortion. Confront him about her one last time, give him one chance to say exactly what's the deal between him and his ex, and then, if he still isn't fessing up to anything, get out of there. There's not much else that you can do at the moment but leave.
2006-07-19 01:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by minerva779 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is your husband if he's a real man then he'd know that a married man needs to cut all emotional/intimate/sexual ties with other women and be totally devoted to his wife.. and if this is making u uncomfortable you have every right to demand that of him.. although u shouldnt have to.. he should be grown enough to realize he's suppose to do that anyways.. he's setting ur marriage up for disaster if he doesnt do something about this situation.. Talk to him and let him know that u feel like your second fiddle and that he wouldnt tolerate it if the shoe were on the other foot and neither will u and he has a choice.. this girl.. or his family because no child should be born into a marriage where a man rather but another woman ahead of them and their mother..
2006-07-19 01:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have ALLOWED this to go on too long. There is clearly something going on with your hubby and his so called ex. YOU must decide what you will and will not tolerate from him. Be prepared to leave him if you must, but don't EVER sit back and let someone disrespect you like that. Your issues are with him NOT her. She doesnt owe you anything so you need to sit him down and make some solid decisions.
2006-07-19 00:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything that happens to us in relationships is what we allow. You are allowing this to happen to you. Forget about him, look at what you are letting someone do to you. You may want to start on taking care of who you are otherwise your gonna let the next guy do the same. You have a child coming, you need to set an example
2006-07-19 01:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by latina44572002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that things happen out of the blue. I think after one year of marriage and being five month's pregnant, your rose colored glasses have finally broken and you're seeing your husband for what he is... an immature person who can't get his emotions together.
5 months pregnant with someone that doesn't love you... a little late to move apart. You've made your bed, now sleep in it...
2006-07-19 00:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Speak to the girl and settle things out.
Appear as the victim, because guys always turn to the weaker one in the end.
But seriously, dump him.
Infidellity gets worse with age.
2006-07-19 00:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by Xanana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since they think so much of each other, let them have one another. Let him know you're not putting up with being 2nd best, not now, not ever and that's just the way it is.
2006-07-19 00:57:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋