Do I leave him now that I am working again though still under probation?
2006-07-19 00:41:32 · 17 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave NOW!! Do you want your child to grow up and be like his father? Or to grow up and put up with crap, like you did? You are killing your childs spirit!! What kind of mother are you? Its not all about you, its about stopping the cycle of abuse. Your mother put up with it?? Your father was a wife beating fool? Come on, your child is the #1 priority. He or she is the future parent of your grand children, if you have a girl child , what are you going to say to her when she comes to your place all beaten up? ' Suck it up honey', NO!! And if your child is a male, what are you going to say to his wife, when you see her all beat up? You are responsible for creating the freakin' monster??? Come on , move on!! Hmf!! Why would you want to be 'taken back' to a hell relationship?? STOP feeling sorry for yourself!! We all make bad choices in life, this is your bad choice, you will make many more in life, LEARN from your mistakes, and ' keep on keepin' on'
Be smart, don't create a next generation of monsters!! or Monster lovers!
2006-07-19 01:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by noahsmom 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes you need to leave him. If your child is a girl she will think it normal and expect her man to treat her like that. If it is a boy he will also grow up thinking it normal to beat up his woman and will do so. Leave while you still can and take the child with you. If it is his file with the courts for child support. If not his then get child support from the childs father. Having a kid is no reason to stay and every reason to leave. He will start beating the kid as he/she gets older and you won't be able to stop him. There are places that will help you. There is the house of Ruth for battered women and thier children and other places too. Get with the police or a local church for places to go to and to get some help in this. Don't put this off another day, it has to be done now. You only need your and your childs ID and stuff like that. DO IT NOW
2006-07-19 07:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now, because if you continue to accept the abuse, then there's no reason for him to change is there? No REAL MAN needs to ever lay a hand on a woman for anything. Was the child with him? If so, leave and get alimony or get his stinkin' as* thrown in jail. If you can prove the abuse, then file it with the police and throw him in jail and let him be some other guy's bi*ch.
Leave now, or you'll most likely end up dead or in jail yourself for something you really should not have done if you had left...
2006-07-19 07:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and never go back. Keeping working and if you play your cards right, you will still have a job once that probation passes. Don't count on steady child support from him, he's the type to become a deadbeat dad out of spite.
2006-07-19 08:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave HIM now, bail out 4 the sake of ur "kid" , it's the best thing 2 do !! Why would u ever want 2 go back 2 anything like that, u both deserve better ! Start believing it !!!!!
2006-07-19 07:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by Tara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you turned him in to the cops. ? He now has this on his record and the next time you call they will haul his but to jail.. Verbal abuse is as bad as physical abuse. And it is also really hard on your child.. Unless he is willing to change because he loves you this situation won't change.. My husband now was like that when we first got married. with the mouth and the physical abuse.. I told him i was leaving and did leave for about two weeks.. He quit drinking to be with me. is when he was at his worst.. and the verbal went on for a while after but he has also learned to shut his mouth too. Now he just sits there and don't talk to me.. He works in town all week so i have all week alone and him home on the weekends to do for me what i need done.. Kinda like living with a trucker that brings home the pay and then goes back out on the road..
Most men will never change so if you can and you have a job and can suport yourself it would be best to move and continue your life on your own or with someone that will appreciate you..
This is from someone who had gone through the change of life don't care if i ever have sex again.. so no man is important enough for me to hang on to..It is nice to have someone to fix the things that i need done on the farm now but it isn't a necessity for me.
I raised 3 kids on my own with out a man so it is very possible for you to go out on your own and be very happy.. no more bruises.
And don't bring men home with you.. you don't want them in your house until you know what they are like. they are to hard to get rid of..
wish you the best of luck in any decisions you make from now on in your life.. just love that child..
2006-07-19 07:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have left him the first time he put his hands on you. Even if the job doesnt work out you need to get out of this relationship. This is not a situation that you or your child should be in. Good luck.
2006-07-19 07:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many places for you to go. Just look up shelters in your area or something. Stay with family. You have got to get out before he starts hitting your baby or worse one of you gets killed. I know that it is hard but you can do it. You have got to get out. once an abuser always an abuser. Please don't let your child grow up in that environment.
2006-07-19 07:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by crossing_jordan2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn around. Look at him and say C Ya.!
It will never stop in fact it will get worse. Take it from somone who has been there.
if your child is a boy do you want him to hit his wife when he gets married or if it is a girl do you want her husband to hit on her?
YOu need to be the one to break the cycle.
2006-07-19 07:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by mlafferty04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to do is call 1-800-799-SAFE, this is a hotline for victims of domestic violence. They can give you info on safe houses and shelters in your area.
2006-07-19 09:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by Redneck Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋