My relationship?
On a "break" I.e no contact
I liveed with my partner for over two years and now I have moved away for a job.
Everything has just come out of the blue and he's asked for a break to sort his head out, get better get a job, he has met a girl who is just a friend and he's adamant that it is an innocent relationship.
i can't understand where this has come from and had a terrible weekend because I was totally hurt by him.
I'm still cross and don't really want to speak to him but he wants to meet up in two weeks (which would have been the norm anyway as I live away) i dont want this to end- he told me he didnt want to either he just needed to do this because he would "go insane" I could understand that if we were living together but we're not.
I'm scared that this is going to end and worried that when we do meet up i dont know what to act like because I have alot of questions.
In this period he said i was allowed to email him but I havent- shall I just leave it to him?
2006-07-19 00:32:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He didnt tell me about his New female friend, I found out- but when I did he said he was going to tell me.
2006-07-19 00:36:46 · update #1
How did you "separate" when you moved out after living together for two years? Did you just leave for the new job and both of you were fine with it, or did you leave on terms where he wanted you to stay?
If you were able to leave after living together for two years, then I think that the living together part probably was not the greatest and so it was a way of 'separating' without saying that you separated. Now after a few months or whatever, he's sort of moved on and found someone else. Whether serious or not, does not matter, he's moved beyond your relationship now.
Long distance relationships are tough, they usually don't work because humans are very touchy animals... we need to see, touch, feel the other person and interact in intimate ways, we're not very good talking people. Just look at our world history, it's always been easier to fight and battle, than to sit and talk things out.
If you really want it to work out, then when you two meet, you better really talk and have constructive conversations and bring everything to the table. Tell him exactly how you feel, what you want out of this relationship, and if he's open and responds back, then he's interested in continuing. If he's closed and not responsive, then I think it's over and you need to move on.
Best of luck to you...
2006-07-19 00:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First understand, Any guy would keep 2 or more girls at the same time if he could...
Second, the word you choose to use is "he said you were ALLOWED" since when do you need permission to email a so called partner????? He wants you both...or maybe even more..
Aren't you worth more than that?? Or if you don't mind sharing him, stay in the relationship, but know he has others as well.
2006-07-19 00:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by Life Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Here goes. Sounds like he is in control of the situation and he has you hanging on. He allows you to email? Ridiculous. Don't. If he wants you, he'll come to you. Don't be too available and don't act hurt. Even if you are. Be cool. His confusion is bull. The girl is the other girl he is dating. This is his way of not committing and technically not tied to you. Make lots of plans with friends and maybe you'll have time for him. Take control of this, before this breaks your heart. Good luck.
2006-07-19 00:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only thing to do, is meet up in 2 weeks and talk... Find out why he felt the break was needed...
Then decide whether the relationship is going to continue... If it doesn't then time to move on...
It is good that he told you about the other girl... He could have just hidden it from you...
2006-07-19 00:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry ...sometimes partners in a relationship need time and space....maybe he is just finding out time for himself...but don't leave things at that...talk out stuff with him that where exactly things are going wrong between u guys. and assure him that u won't mind if he admitted if there is someone else in ur life...don't let him bully u 2 much but at the same time be kind and understanding
2006-07-19 00:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I really don't know him but seems to me like he wants to end it.. I mean come on if going on a "break" means no talking or anything.. that's a lil weird.. I would email him and start asking questions! you have the right to know whats going on.. stand up for yourself!!
2006-07-19 00:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be cool when you have contact with him and let him dictate the conversation for now. Oh, and for God's sake, you better look at the handwriting on the wall and make him wrap his rascal, if you weren't before.
2006-07-19 00:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by runninfool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray he comes to his rite senses bt dnt go beggin him cos u worth a lot n u r very priceless n will hv no guy toss u ard.If he wnts to go,let him go!
2006-07-19 00:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Chicquita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that i would not wait around for him.. find yourself some friends and keep busy.. it may not be so easy but make yourself..an if he email you fine.. i do not think he should of went to another woman.. or girl.. and you can not believe or really know what he is doing with her...he has hurt you, but do not stand still for it..keep busy like i said.. find something to keep your mind occupied...and try to make more friends and male friends too...
2006-07-19 00:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should not be afraid of leaving a man. i know is very difficult but if you don't try to go through that pain now you will suffer at the end
2006-07-19 02:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by maa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋