...and then the boss apologizes (probably fearing a case of sexual harrassment). The woman is somewhat offended, yet does not want to make a fuss. However, she also feels awkward and distrusting... What's the best way for her to deal with it? Should she tell Human Resources? Should she move to another department? Or should she just grin and bear it?
2006-07-19 00:17:03 · 18 answers · asked by nippon_diosa 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
...and no, this didn't happen to me... hahaha... asking for a friend.
2006-07-19 01:27:38 · update #1
Talk to the boss about it. She should tell him she didn't like it, it's not acceptable, and that she just doesn't want to cause a fuss over it, but if it happens again, she will.
2006-07-19 00:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by a_digitaldreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will try to approch it in a very objective way. In any decent company the policies of reporting any work related issue are like these:
1. Talk to your direct manager ( even if he is the one who created the issue) If the results or the communication does not solve the issue move to step two.
2 Talk to his imediat manager ( in case your boss is the ultimate manager on his branch ..as in he doesnt report to anyone but general director skip this step and go for the 3rd one)
3. Talk with the HR manager resposible with work related issue ( they treat the issue with high rate of confidentiality ..again if it is a decent company). They will aproach it in 2 ways.. first direct communication with the manager withou tinvoving you. If no result..the second meeting will be between HR you your manager and 2 other independent co workes who will be there to make sure and confirm that the discussion was fair to you and the one you accuse.
4.If the solution and post events does not satisfy you.. you may go further and contact the hot line of your company who is open to anyone.. Seldom the internal auditors check the issues presented there and how were they addressed)
5. If no satisfacatory solution.. I would advise you to just find another job and leave.. or if things really offended you you can contact a lawyer and make it a civil case.
PS: you may contact the union for your industry if there is one available.. they always do good stuff with these issues.
Good luck to your friend.. I hope it helps her.
2006-07-19 02:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say where this happened? It makes a differance(a bar or work) in a bar you may have let him think you were wanting him to make a pass, at the office however report him to HR. at once! The workplace is noplace for horseplay, loveplay, an if you fail to report this you could be the one looking for a job, if your BOSS over heard talk about how you fell, an makes a report about you as the one who made the move. So you should cover your a$$, an not delay in reporting this!!!
2006-07-19 01:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by play dough 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Human Resources, get him fired and take his job in exchange for a waiver that releases your employer from any further responsibility.
Then fall down and hurt your back while avoiding your next bosses embrace brought about by your endless flirting and suggestive innuendos. Be sure to go heavy on the make-up, cologne and to wear those high hemlines/deep cleavage/ and stiletto heels.
2006-07-19 00:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by Chronic Observer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he apologises then she should take him at his word and try to forgive him. If he does it again then he was obviously lying when he said he was sorry and she should report him to HR.
In the mean time, she should go and learn an effective form of self protection at a martial arts class which will give her the confidence she needs to defend herself should it happen again. Studying a martial art will make a woman realise how pathetic the man was and is.
2006-07-19 01:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it's sexual harrassment and that it shouldn't be tolerated. If you don't do something about this, what will your boss have to do in order for you to say something? What if he takes this as a "green light"? We need to stand up for ourselves and protect ourselves from these ignorant men who believe that we won't say anything just because we don't want to cause a ruckus. It's sexual harrassment, you don't have to deal with it. He knew it was wrong to kiss you, he knew it before he kissed you, he shouldn't have done it.
2006-07-19 00:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by bitto luv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess she could wait n see if there are any other hints that he is up to sumtin / might do it again. Would make a note of date n situation etc for future reference if needed....
the boss mite be genuinly sorry about it and it would be harsh to report it for one silly mistake, but cant hurt to keep a close eye on it to make sure it wont happen again...
then again, al depends on how he is as a boss... if there are more crappy things then this could be the opening to do something about him
2006-07-19 00:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Blind Wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he crossed the line and you don't want it to happen again, then tell him if does try anything again you will report him. It may be worthwhile telling someone in HR that this has happened but you don't want to take any action at this stage. That way if anything else does occur it will help you case against him.
2006-07-19 00:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it was inappropriate, and will not be reported to HR if it happens again. If you did not give any signals of interest, than he is out of line. Work is not a singles bar. Men have plenty of other places to find a date or get laid if they need to.
2006-07-19 00:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Man with a plan. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not say some thing. it is going to easily make it extra awkward. Your medical professional can help you with your alcohol challenge. obviously, you're having problems with alcohol. i do not have a subject matter with alcohol. I only were given inebriated at a artwork function and did some thing that ought to get me fired. that isn't any longer a subject matter. individuals have complications.
2016-10-14 23:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋