Me and my wife of 2 years are getting divorced mainly because my family lives in New Jersey and hers in California and the distance apart kills us from our families what is your advice ?
2006-07-19 00:12:26 · 15 answers · asked by Matthew O 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Plus i have a son who lives with his mother here in NJ and she has three kids that live with there father in CA
2006-07-19 00:21:30 · update #1
I know that it would be hard...as I have been in a long distance relationship before...if your love is so strong. the break up will prove to you just how much, and you wont be able to handle it!...
I cant see a positive comming from a breakup when you both love each other :)
good luck
please try work it out
2006-07-19 00:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by El 1 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Think about what is best for you and your family! When you want to have a family on your own you have to make decisions that are best for you and the family? Do you think that if you divorce will solve this situation?Or better said...is divorce the answer to this problem?I don't think it is! Try to talk with your wife and get to an agreement, because your son has the right to have his both parents by his side...I don't think the distance is the only reason...and if your family and her's want the best for both of you they will help you! Just ask their hepl and advice!
Good luck!
2006-07-19 11:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your wife truly love one another, don't let where you live break your marriage up. No where is it written that you must live in the same state and town as family members do. Vist when you can and those visits will make the trips all the more special. And if family wants to see you, they know how to travel to your place as well. That goes both ways.
2006-07-19 08:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you guys living apart? A married couple should live in the same house and under the same roof. If that is the problem then buy a house for your wife and yourself where both of you can be happy about it. Make it an equal deal.
2006-07-19 08:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a sacrifice at many levels. I am not trying to Bible thump you here, but once you are married you are suppose to cleave unto each other.....begin a family of your own. That is not to say you cannot visit your families. But you have to be committed to one another and perhaps the both of you aren't ready for that.
However, to save your marriage , if this is your desire then one of you should move and find a job close to the family you want to live near. Then another sacrifice will have to be made...the one not living near their family will need to make trips.......It all hinges on weather or not you want the marriage to work.
My advice, keep your families out of your marriage if you want it to last.
Best wishes to you both.
2006-07-19 07:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Pammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And where are you living now ? On the East coast or West ? you loved each other enough to marry yet are willing to throw it away to be closer to your families .. My advice would be to share your time between them. Look to opening a small business that might allow you to spend time on both coasts. If you love HER fight for her..
All cubs feel the pangs of homesickness once in awhile.Its ok but your married now and that is the start of YOUR family.. bringing both families into yours .. not the other way around ..
Good luck I wish you both all the best
2006-07-19 07:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guys are in love then whats the big deal? why don't ya'll just move to a different state where both ya'll family ain't near by so that it would be fair on both side. i know family is a big deal shoot i ain't gonna lie i live down the street from my mom but i be missing like crazy but your a grown man and you have a life with your wife. plus you can always go visit ya know what i mean.
2006-07-19 07:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by Koran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember that When I lives in washington state and my wife lives in Califorina and I didn't know what to do. I said to myself I love my wife more than anything and my kids so I got in my car and drove down to bakersfield CA and live with my wife andkids and I found a job and now we are so happy whew it been 9 years now If I didn't move down there with my wife I wouldn't be married for 9 years.
If you love your wife more than anything and very happy. Move down there or she might find already find someone and wanted the divorced and Go down there and suprise her and tell her I love you more than anything in the world. that why I am here with you. If she said oh you are home..... then you save the marriage, or if she said i am sorry i just found someone .... If you really love your wife more than anything... go down there save it and it will last forever being married.
2006-07-19 07:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame you did not know the distance thing before you married each others family. Wait a minute, you married HER and she married YOU! Let each others family come to you as a married couple living your own lives together.
2006-07-19 13:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by JIM S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you and your wife marry each other or did you marry each others family?My family all live interstate.My wifes family lives overseas.We have been married for 5 years and started a family together.Live your lives for each other,not your families.It sounds like an excuse to end the marriage,not a reason.
2006-07-19 07:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋