I have child with him. he treated me badly, and took in my friend, who is pregnant with him now. and they are also living together in one apartment.he disappointed me after all the promises he gave me and all the pains i passed through.Should i hurt him back or should i let him go.?????
2006-07-18 23:47:14 · 31 answers · asked by Abi nana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let him go. You getting revenge means he still has a hold on you & it means you're out of control. Take control & let the pain go. It takes time but it can happen.
2006-07-19 00:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're recovering from a broken heart, there are things you can do to lessen the pain. Here are some tips that might help:
Share your feelings. Sharing your feelings with someone you trust may help you to feel better. That could mean simply talking with a friend or family member. For some, letting the tears flow seems to help them heal faster. For others, simply hanging out together and doing things they normally enjoy, like seeing a movie or going to a concert, can be comforting. Somehow, just being with someone who cares can make things feel a little better.
Take good care of yourself. A broken heart can be very stressful, so it's important to take care of your body. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly to minimize stress and depression and give your self-esteem a boost.
Remember what's good about you. Sometimes people with broken hearts start to blame themselves for what's happened. They may be really down on themselves, exaggerating their faults as though they did something to deserve the unhappiness they're experiencing. If you find this happening to you, nip it in the bud! Remind yourself of your good qualities, and if you can't think of them because your broken heart is clouding your view, get your friends to help you remember how great you are.
Keep yourself busy. Sometimes this is difficult when you're coping with sadness and grief, but it really helps. This is a great time to redecorate your room or try a new hobby. That doesn't mean you shouldn't think about what happened, it just means you should focus on other things, too.
Give yourself time. It takes time for sadness to go away. Almost everyone thinks they won't feel normal again, but the human spirit is amazing - and the heart almost always does heal after a while. But how long will that take? That depends on what caused your heartbroken feeling, how you deal with loss, and how quickly you tend to bounce back from things. Mending a broken heart can take from a few days to several months.
hitting back will only lower your self esteem so dont do it gal instead move on with your head high because you deserve better
2006-07-19 06:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ruby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similair situation to you. Me and my x are now back together and he has found out i went with someone when we split up. It has hurt him so, so, so bad and i have suffered a few beatings because of this and now weve sort of broke up again, but u know what, i wouldn't change what i did because even though i have suffered abit since he found out, there is nothing better than knowing that he is now feeling the pain that he caused me! But it's up to you, if he's the violent type, don't bother but if not then go ahead girl. there is nothing like a woman scorned
2006-07-19 07:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to hurt him the best thing is to move on with your life do what you must to become a better person. go back to school get a better job fix yourself up do all the positive things in your life you didnt do when you were with him. and take your time with men in the future dont go sleeping around take the time that is needed to find the right man who is 10 times better than him. dont worry you will find him. and when he turn around he will see how much you have improved as a person how much luck and prosperity you have and he will want a piece of it but when reality kicks in and he cant have it...youve gotton your revenge and trust me there isnt anything sweeter and all you did was become a better person and no malicious acts were made
It worked for me
2006-07-20 03:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by redserenity0804 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you try to hurt him back then you will likely end up only hurting yourself more - trust me I've been there! It's a lot easier to say than to do but let him go and concentrate on healing yourself until someone who is worthy of your time, effort and affection comes along.
Remember that you have to know what pain is to appreciate the pleasure, everything happens for a reason and what doesn't kill us makes us stronger... cliched but true
2006-07-19 07:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by kenla210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,let him go,don't stress urself or even wasting ur time on thinking "should i hurt him back?".What comes around,it will come around (karma).What i mean is,he did hurt u,i understand how u feel,but one day soon or later something bad will happen to him for sure and he will get more pain than u have now.So,just focus on taking care of ur beautiful child and enjoy being a mother ;-)
2006-07-19 07:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the kid loves you very very much, and can't live without you, the best strategy is to go to his father, put your child into his arms and tell him you did not make that child by yourself, and then walk away and don't look back. Trust me, the kid will cry for you, and sooner or later, the father will comeback to you, because he will realize he cannot live without his child which cannot live without you. But first, be sure that your kid loves you more than he loves his father. And be patient
2006-07-19 06:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by Gersin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. MOve on. He is not worth it. Show him that you can do better. Claim support for his child. I he does not give it. . .file a case, its your childs right after all. But never beg. Stand up, chin up and DO YOUR BEST TO BE THE BEST PERSON YOU CAN BE. a successful single mother. Use the experience in your future relationships. Be tough. you need it.
2006-07-19 06:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by mich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See my dear its of no use hurting him back. B'coz he is aperson without heart. Now,never bend your head in front of him. Don't go to him and beg for a life. U look after ur baby and lead a good and a decent life.
2006-07-19 06:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by vibha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, there's nothing gained in trying to "hurt him back." The fact that you are able to move on with your life will show him that he didn't have the power to destroy you and will "revenge" enough.
2006-07-19 07:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by Phillip B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋