2006-07-18 23:45:59 · 14 answers · asked by Wazza 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
First of all, I sympathize with you, bullies can make life terrible. You may go to a teacher or a principal, but you need to be able to trust them. If the teacher or principal tells the bully you complained, you just increased your problem. The sad fact is that if you are a person who is a little shy, or tend to keep to yourself, you tend to be a target for bullies. But you can fight back. You do not have to tollerate their taunts. Defend yourself. You allow people to treat a you a certain way. If they are physically abusive, fight back. No one wants to get in a fight if the other person is going to fight back, physically. However, let me set you straight, do not start a fight. Just defend yourself if you are approached. If they are verbally abusive, don't allow their words to have power. If you make a joke of what they say (even if it is hurtful, pretend it isn't) they will eventually quit, simply because what bullies want to is be able to hurt you. It makes them feel they are better than others if they can "put them down." But, if you don't let their words affect you, they will quit. they aren't getting any reward from it.
An example of this happened to a friend of mine in his 1st year of high school. A couple of upper classmen approached my friend and one of his friends as they walked across the football field. The older boys told them to "Eat grass or we'll kick your ass." One of the freshmen ate the grass and those older boys bullied him all year. My friend said to the older boys, "I'm not eating grass, you may kick my ass, but I'm not eating grass." Guess what, they didn't touch my friend that day, nor was he bullied, unlike his grass eating friend.
I also found a website that may give you some help as well.
http://bullystoppers.com/bullying_help_for_students.htm
2006-07-19 00:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to know that one of the stipulations of the NCLB act in schools is that schools will get more money if they dont' have 'behavioral' issues documented.
So, schools are now allowing bullying and every other form of behavior problem and not dealing with them at all so they can get more money.
BUT, schools also have a federal bullying law that they are mandated to enforce.
If I were you I would tell your parents what is going on, tell your parents to ask the principal what is he going to do to protect you thru the federal bullying law that he has to enforce.
If principal does nothing, go up to superintendent.
If it's really bad, get the police involved.
I know all this will cause even more bullying and will seem to hurt the situation instead of help it.
But something has to be done.
If you can, stand up to the bully. Do the same things they are doing to you. If YOU get in trouble, tell them you are only protecting yourself from the REAL bully.
I have found no real answer to bullying. It keeps continuing with the blessing of the schools.
2006-07-19 08:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by jdeekdee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I'm a guy, sometime guys do not understand what is wrong.
first you need to NOT be scared. get over that and you fight with all you have. do not be scared, if you stand up for your self it will stop. I would also tell a teacher or your parents. Do you have a big brother? if you do tell him. I know ot sounds crazy but you need to stand up to them. Just get really mad and do what you have to do. if you put up a good fight it will stop I promise. If you loose so what at least you did something for your self. If it happens again you stand up for your self. Get a few pointers from a older boy. You can do it.
2006-07-19 00:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by mike67333 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents and your class teacher, and also go directly to the headmistresses office and tell her. You just go straight to her and tell her you have a problem and want to talk to her right now. Don't let the secretary tell you to wait either! Try to walk with some friends around school and if they cross your path meanwhile, tell them they are being watch by the headmistress. It will hopefully scare them. Hope all goes well for you.
2006-07-19 00:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by VelvetRose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. I got beaten up every day my junior year in high school. You can't tell because it makes it worse. There is only one thing that you can do, fight back. I kept fighting back and still got bullied. good luck
2006-07-18 23:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by researchtissue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to tell your parents so they help you do something about it. Second of all those who bully you don't have any self-esteem or a life. So remember it is not you it is them.
2006-07-19 07:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Expert Answers™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to learn to fight back or you can wuss out and tell your teachers. If you choose to fight be prepared for a few cuts and bruises yourself, but with that comes character and the joy of knowing you stood up for yourself.
Every man/woman needs to fight at some point in there life.
DO NOT USE WEAPONS UNLESS THEY DO.
2006-07-18 23:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by sooooo angry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone at school your parents, someone. Letting this go and thinking it will just get better doesnt work, it get worse, so get someone to help you make it stop.
2006-07-18 23:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i think is that the best way is to ignore them coz telling ur parents and teachers will only make the matter worse as they will get another topic to tease u.Best of luck
2006-07-19 01:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by Jasmin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn karate.
2006-07-19 13:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋