Is it wrong to have sex when you're 14?

Question

I know a lot of guys that want to have sex with me, adn I want to but I don't know if that would make me easy or something.

Answer 1

I seem to be the only person who sees it this way, but responsibility and maturity determine if you're ready, not years of age. Believe me, I know... I started feeling sexual frustration when I was 11, physically stopped growing when i was 12 (seriously, same height, same boob size, weigh even less now). physically I was ready. Back in medieval times, i would have been married off already. But today's time is much more complicated, and i don't believe I was mentally ready (though i didn't admit it to myself). I didn't save it for 18 either. By fifteen i think that mentally I could handle it (and did). Everyone's different... My only regret, slight as it is, is that I broke the law to have sex. I don't break any other laws, ever. But if your mentally and physically ready before the legal age, and chose to do it, you will have such regrets. Can you live with that?

Something much more difficult is the label of being easy. In my opinion, men are easier that women. much easier. Why does it have to be a good thing for a man and a bad thing for a woman? I really don't know.... I wouldn't consider you "easy." that's girls who are desperate and will do it with scum. I doubt that's you. the problem is that the more people you do it with, the more known your promiscuous reputation will be, and I'll bet u will be called easy by a lot of people, and people will judge you (wrongfully, i know, but they will). It may get to the teachers, and you never know how some teachers may act toward you if they resent that sort of thing. So for those reasons, I think you should wait. You might not be ready either. That's most likely at 14. But even if you are, it's not you, but the society that causes me to strongly discourage promiscuity for a while. I would be a hypocrite if I said wait until you're 18, so i wont. but what i will say is that if u save it till late high school, a similar reputation will emerge. If being called easy bothers you, you probably shouldn't risk it. Of course, in high school if you save it for a long-term boyfriend at least, odds are your rep wont be near as bad, and it's also less likely that word will get out at all that u are sexually active.

Answer 2

Kinda, yeah. You shouldn't have sex until you're mature enough to deal with the emotional repercussions and stable enough to handle raising a baby b/c even the best birth control isn't 100%. You also don't want a reputation at that age because the quality guys aren't going to want anything to do with you if you're the town bicycle (everybody's had a ride). It may seem like a good idea at the time, but I guarantee you in a year, maybe 2, you'd regret the hell out of having sex right now. You're still a kid. Enjoy it while it lasts. You so don't want the stress of wondering if you're pregnant, if you caught a disease, what the guy is telling his friends and what his friends are telling EVERYONE else...trust me...

Answer 3

It's most likely illegal (depending on where you are), but of course that isn't the same thing as wrong. But 14's pretty young to start, and you'd probably do better to wait at least a couple of years.

If you do decide to, though, be very careful. Do your best to choose the right guy, someone you really like as a person, and make sure he knows all about STD's (sexually transmitted diseases). And remember, getting pregnant at 14 can be one hell of a good way to screw up the rest of your life.

Answer 4

Teens are being pressured to have sex I was pressured when I was 15 and ended pregnant when I was 16 i'm 24 now. But if you think your ready then hey if not don't. The only reason I did it was because my hormones were acting up and I ended up being caught up so just think about it and if your ready I'd used a condom because that's where I messed up at but I didn't catch anything i had it worser a baby. But I still can go out and stuff.

Answer 5

Let me ask you some questions:
1. Is this OK with your parents?
2. Is this OK with the boy's parents?
3. Are you financially independent (do you have the $ 180,000+ it takes to raise a child if you get pregnant)?
4. Are you willing to risk pregnancy?
5. Are you willing to risk STDs?
6. Are you willing to give up your reputation forever?
7. Are you willing to be a "notch" on his belt? (even if you are his first you won't be his last if he's 14 or 15)
8. Are you willing to have him walk away after sex and never see you again (big possibility)?
9. Are you able to care for a baby, go to school, work, and have any time of life at the same time?
10. Are you willing to give up the ONE thing that you ALONE can give to your future husband? (your virginity)
11. Are you willing to get caught? (you will)
12. Are you willing to lie to have sex? (you'll have to do that too)
13. Are you willing to be seen naked?
14. Are you mature enough to handle the guilt associated with sex outside of marriage?
15. Are you emotionally ready for the turmoil you will bring to yourself? (does he still "love" me, am I going to be pregnant, will my parents be mad at me, what will my friends think, etc)
16. Are you ready to drop out of school if necessary and give up your friends if you get pregnant?

I know, you are invincible. . . you will practice "safe sex" (there is NO SUCH THING), you boyfriend will be careful with you, you won't have any pain or bleeding because you are not fully internally physically developed, all of these things. Yeah, right.

Don't be ignorant and don't be stupid. DON'T HAVE SEX until you are married.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong to have sex at 14. In my country, it is a custom to get married at 12. The wrong thing is when you are not prepared for the responsibility after having sex.

Answer 7

Sex is like crack!(no pun intended) Once you get a little bit, you wonder if that's all there is to it and you begin to crave more from different partners. Then you pop up with and incurable STD and regrets! So I'd have to say sex at 14 isn't the best avenue to becoming an adult! Take your time and live!

Answer 8

14 is way too young! Trust me if the guys are all over you now, just wait til you're at least 18, then it'll be alright.

Answer 9

14 is too young for sex

Answer 10

All i gotta sey is that your still a young girl and has got the whole of your life to do 'it', esp at the age of 14.. just too young,, it may get addictive and all..