2006-07-18 21:58:59 · 26 answers · asked by shalini 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It must be horrible to be so young and alone with a baby. My best advise to you is to be strong. Go back to school and get a good job to support yourself and your child. Go to your family for help. I know it's all so hard to comprehend right now, but you will be OK. Concentrate on creating a sound foundation for yourself and your child. Don't be so quick to look for another husband. (Besides, let's be realistic, most men your age are not mature enough to commit to an instant family.) Marrying someone for all the wrong reasons is not the answer, and predictably will backfire on you. Above all, it wouldn't be fair to you, your child, and especially not the other person.
2006-07-18 22:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by TCBgirl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My deep condolence to you and I hope you will get better soon. Life is full of obstacle and I hope you will get over it soon. About your decision of getting married again it's really up to you. There is a grieving time I think you should know when you will be ready again. Try not to rush in life when finding someone that you're not ready yet. If you have someone that really supportive and willing to take the role in taking care of you and your baby I think you have to really ask yourself if you also have feeling for him. I have an Aunt she dies from cancer and his husband remarries after 1 year. And I think is ok as long as you feel ready. I wish you and your baby good luck and may you find tranquility.
2006-07-19 05:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by rattlesnakes_101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You need to settle down first, get mentally prepared and then find a perfect man who will accept you along with baby ( which is more important) and take the things further. Please do not rush ! You must be 100% sure whether getting into any relationship, especially from ur baby's point of view.
In India ( i belong to ) i would have been a bit difficult.
Best Luck need any help shoot me a mail !
God Bless you and lot of love to ur baby.
2006-07-19 05:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by wadwekarg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking about the future or the past distracts you from the perfection that is Now. Pain is part of the gift of learning and does not take away the beauty of life with your child. Relax. Rather than trying to get to something that doesn't exist, make the very most of what you have. No need to be anxious. if you accept the fullness of life, you will be fulfilled.
2006-07-19 20:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you must concentrate on your child. You must do your utmost to provide the best life you can in bringing him/her up. Make it your business to assure that the father give proper financial support. This is not a vindictive act...but you must for the sake of the child.
If you remarry unfortunately, it will depend on what life has in store for you. You can have a profound effect on this by how you take hold of your life at this point.One thing for sure, you don't want to rush out and start living for that episode. Now is the time to take time and learn more about yourself, build your self assurance and concentrate on being self supporting. Build your poise rather than using your time trying to catch a man. You must be careful when men began to enter your life. You cannot rush in and you certainly cannot allow yourself to be used.
You cannot act desperate!
These are only suggestions, but In my opinion if you let the above formula be your guide, you will come out on top for both, you and your newborn.
To thine own self be true first...then who knows a bright future filled with true love and understanding could be just around the corner for you. When you do make your choice...please don't forget...your child must come first.
2006-07-19 05:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the right guy comes along.
Not gonna help rushing into another relationship cos it may all end in tears, that wouldn't be good for you or your baby.
Things will work out for you in the end, just give it a little more time.
Good Luck!!! :-)
2006-07-19 05:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know but right now focus on the baby.if you raise the child right and don't let the child become a brat that listens to no one it may be a while.teach the child maners and show it love it will give love back and a gentelman will see this if he loves you and the child is behaved it will work out if not he will run i know it happened to me and i ran.just don't feel bad and spoil the child to death because it has no father. in time it will happen
2006-07-19 05:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by dalecollins64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the time is right evry thing happens for a reason and if you live in sacramento california usa i can baby sit for you $6 an hour or $22 comission
2006-07-19 05:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by parentsaver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did you loose your husband?
thing will get better eventually, you will find a new man
why the rush, if you rush and try to look for a man then you will not find one and be all alone, take your time and be happy with what you have and thing will come to you
2006-07-19 05:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you get over the loss of your husband and find someone who will make you happy and if you accept their proposal, then you will get married.
2006-07-19 05:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by mwilaeuzaih 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋