I have been told to be myself all my life but i dont no who i am.....my opinion changes from one minute to the next i am very shy and have really bad confidence.....i have even convinced myself that everything that i think... the oposite will happen....how can i find my true self
2006-07-18 21:56:42 · 10 answers · asked by Don't Mess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you know what, very few people ask this question to themselves. people who really care for life, care for their goals, care for their attitude and others attitude towards them. i really appreciate you for putting yourself that intelligent question. see, you know your nature, bad confidence and shy...which should not be considered as negative points. you know, when you set high standards for yourself, you start expecting a lot from you and you are never satisfied with yourself. thats the route to perfectionism. being shy is so cute. i find it cute. i think shy people are lot more intense and intelligent. and one more oneliner which i would suggest is....there is a lot of different between what you think you are and what you really are. to know what you are, stop questioning and start doing something practical...do not get surprised to see a new you when things happen the other way. and remember one more thing...do not pretend be true to yourself and do not bother about the results...your thoughts and efforts together are more valuable than the results...because the later is not in our hands...try reading Bhagavad Geeta...its all about knowing one's self.
all the best
2006-07-18 22:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Dont focus on what other people tell you and trust yourself.. What you do and makes you happy and doesnt hurt other people is right and is who you are.. The way you see yourself in the future without the opinions of others it's also your true self.. Try to focus on you and not on ppl around you.. U r still building your personality obviously so make it easy for yourself and try to find what you like .. People are trying to infulence you so that you become like them or just to become a good person who does the right things.. However that doesnt make you a free person .. You will be happy only if you do what you like to do and not because you are made to do so.. Find things that u consider interesting and have fun.. Enjoy your life ..you are still young .. Listen to your parents and all but you have your own free will to make your own proper decisions..
2006-07-19 05:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think about it and respond honestly to all who talk to you. Get over the idea that it matters what other people think of you. You will get more respect for acting how you feel and responding how you think. And if you don't, those people don't deserve to be around you. Be patient. You won't really know who you are until you are much older. It just happens that way. Accept it, don't think about it, and be happy. Ignore what gets in your way and push through the hard stuff. It's all fake.
2006-07-19 05:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no one really knows who they are.. its one of the most complex questions... cause one undergoes a change almost every second....
just be yourself.. dont care about how the world will think if you do this and that.. you need not show the confidence but make sure you have it inside you... listen to your hurt... getting to know who you really are happens only when you face challenges and hit the hard times and how you rise from there...
well alll the best to you...
2006-07-19 05:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by not so confused soul.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to feel that u way and its not wrong that ur mind is very changable from min to min... to know your self you need to know what is ur goal, what is the vision u want to acheive and the more u work for this goal the more ur personality apears and shaped
i hope i helped
2006-07-19 05:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Clark794 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meditiation help u to focus and be determine, u will gain yr confidence naturally after tt.
2006-07-19 04:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Calla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to DrPhil.com, that bold head guy will save your aXX.
2006-07-19 05:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one knows who is
2006-07-19 04:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by ice cream with chocolate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont. You just are.
2006-07-19 05:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by ne0teric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do wat u like.
2006-07-19 05:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by $jess$ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋