how to control temper and have passions?

Answer 1

Temper is the main enemy when you areinside a classroom filled with unruly students and yet it is what may make or break your classroom relationship with the students. When the temper starts to rise, get a hold of yourself, breathe deeply, and remember that that will not take you anywhere. Teachers tend to be bored with the everyday ritual inside the classroom and that with all the wrong things that had happend or is happening keeps her off the handle so that a little misbehavior inside the classroom will trigger it off. But as said, we are the masters of ourselves. To have passions, you have to use different strategies in the presentation of the lesson and although you already have a very good knowledge on the subject, rememeber that the students have not. Be and stay interested in the lesson, plan a good day ahead and always smile when you enter the classroom.:)

Answer 2

one of the things i learnt about being angry and showing it is that controlling your temper doesn't mean that you have to hide the fact you're angry, but to choose a different, healthier way of expressing that anger.

there's something i read somewhere on the repression and expression of feelings. i'll use a diagram to represent it:

Acknowledgement <----------------> Repression
........|
Expression
..|..................\
unhealthy....healthy

the opposite of repression isn't expression, but the acknowledgement of the feelings. however the expression of feelings can be healthy (promoting understanding and strengthening ties) or unhealthy.

overcoming temper tantrums can be difficult, because it might have been hard-wired into the brain and the lifestyle. but its not impossible... it takes time and a lot of patience and asking for forgiveness from others. in a sense its almost an addiction... some people feel high after they've expressed themselves this way.

i suggest using the 12-steps of Alcoholics Anonymous to overcome this problem, and to find a few people whom you trust and who are willing to go thru this with you to support you in your period of change. the summary of the 12-steps involves acknowledging that you have a problem and that you need help, that you're willing to fearlessly examine your motives and morals in order to change and that you're willing to make amends for the wrong things you've done or said.

a good way of expressing anger is to take a deep breath and to consider why you're angry. then to tell the person whom you're angry with that you're angry, and why, targeting the person's behaviour.

Answer 3

That requires a lot of self discipline.