no I feel kinda bad about it, should I keep it to myself or tell him what I done?
2006-07-18 21:10:58 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you hv any kids ?
If yes and you getting divorce, your children become suffer.
Your score is 1 - 1
actually you don't have a problem and you do not have any obligation to tell anyone, just keep it for yourself.
2006-07-18 21:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jakarta 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Why would you think cheating back would do you any good? It puts you in the same category as him - almost... If there is children involved I'd consider giving him a second chance - if no children - I'd probably not give him a second chance. I'd consider whether I'd be able to make it on my own. (But that's me, not you:-)
If you chould tell him about your cheating or not depends on what status you want when you start talking to him. If you tell him, you are as bad as he was - two equals. If you keep it from him, you are the victim and he must comfort you... If you want him back, I'd suggest you tell him what you did, and how it made you feel. Because the problem really is: will his friend tell him???? Or when will his friend tell him???
If you want to do something about your husband's cheating, you must talk to him. Why has he cheated on you? What is wrong in your marriage to make him do this? If you are able to give him a second chance after this, what will he do to make you feel ability to trust him again, and what can the two of you do to prevent this from happening again. If there was somethings in you marriage that caused him to cheat - how can the two of you fill this/repair this - whatever it was.
I think cheating is something some people (male or female) do when they are not having an ideal marriage compared to what they like to think. Why they cheat instead of talking to spouce and trying to make things better instead of worse - I do not understand it, though. I'd think your marriage would get richer and deeper trying to work things out - getting to know eachother deeper and better.
Your husband in addition cheated with your cousin!That makes twice the cheat. He cheated on you and she cheated on you. Can you forgive him? can you forgive her? what can you do to get over this? Is it easier to forgive him or is it easier to forgive her? Are you able to forgive?
Good luck on whatever you choose!
2006-07-18 21:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sense a very big problem in this marriage. Two wrongs can never make a right. it is like you are now competing with your husband.
It is better you talk about the way forward. You are not making anything right by you starting to cheat on him as well, see you are becoming more miserable instead of making yourself happy, you are now guilty over your own actions.
Better you talk about this with him than sleeping with other peoples husbands. You will just hurt more people in the end.
Think about it.
2006-07-18 21:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by mwilaeuzaih 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this question is legitimate, you definitely handled it the wrong way. Who did you wind up hurting in the end?
Trust is going to be an issue I'm not sure you will be able to resolve in your relationship.
Definitly keep it to yourself and just decide if you think both of you can start new and work on the trust factor. Or if you even want to.
2006-07-19 07:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am with a married man and it is hard for him to go through a divorce because for one the kids, then the house and the money. You can't trust him. I got everything I need. My ex cheated on me with a hooker and I said hell with the ex. It took a while to leave him because of the baby then court. But I am happy now.
2006-07-18 22:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a Newton's third law of Motion.." For every action their is equal and opposite reaction.." Well tolerance and passions would have make you feel much superior than your husband hence you have reacted so both of you are classifieds as "Married and cheaters...
2006-07-18 21:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by ilyas h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are so unfulfilled that you both chose to cheat, then you have much larger issues about even remaining married, then worrying about keeping your escapades a secret.
2006-07-18 21:25:34 · answer #7 · answered by Scott W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right ,most situations it doesn't make you feel better only guilty like your feeling .Tell him and move on he messed around with your family that is the worst thing he could of done.Find yourself a real man .good luck
2006-07-18 21:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by Dodgerchik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 wrongs don't make a right after the 2nd time he cheated on you - you should have filed for divorce and kicked him out
2006-07-18 21:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by precious52801 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage will just get worse if you keep on cheating to each other. If you don't have feelings to one another, separate and get divorced.
2006-07-18 21:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by lara23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it to yourself. You stayed with him after his cheating, but a man cannot deal with his wife cheating on him. He'd be inclined to leave.
2006-07-18 21:16:01 · answer #11 · answered by Big Daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋