this gal kaleena always force people everyday , and swear at people and calls people name's ....
i play with her at skool, we r only 12 years old and im trying to help her not to call people names and swear,
i need ur help........
im trying to tell her not to swear too much and dont force people
wat do i say to her not to force people around?
2006-07-18 20:38:45 · 6 answers · asked by ILuv2Help 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This will be a very difficult task for you. Being only 12, I doubt that she will have the maturity to accept your help. She obviously get off on her power over others. Her home life may be the major cause why she use the foul language and the mean behavior. If that is the case it will be deep rooted.
Timming is of the essence here. Try and pick a time when you can get her whole attention. You've got to make sure she is really listening to have a chance of getting through to her. You may try to give her some kind of treat to achieve this. Maybe taking her to your local ice cream parlor (you buy of course) would be a good place...or at a nice park with you providing the goodies.
Start by telling her how much her friendship mean to you and that you sincerely care for her. Let her know that you are not judging her but it hurts you to see her hurt others and use that nasty language. You know she is a beatiful person and to see her act this way is just so sad for a person of her quality.
You must make sure that this dose not sound like a lecture.
Ask her if she would please try...for your sake, because you love her...to be a little sweeter and nicer to others. Try and get her to understand that in the end it is kindness which get one truly respected..and the reward is much more gratifing.
If this get her to trying a bit you can help her as you go along...even your friendship will become enriched and stronger.
Good luck to you...continue to be a good person. This will certainly enrich your life as you grow.
Here is my my favorite saying that I use and would like to pass on to you. "When things are not going your way, and people are treating you bad and putting you down, use this as a chance to show how much class you have".
2006-07-18 21:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she quit trying to push everyone around she would have more freinds and that later on when she is older she will appreciate it
2006-07-19 03:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking weird question what does that have to do with the topic,Did you put it in the wrong Topic?
2006-07-19 03:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by t0mmyz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the very same thing to her...get your other friends to do it too...then when she grumbles about it...remind her of how she's been doing those things to other people...tell her that's how others feel when she treats them like that...
2006-07-19 03:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by Big Bike Biker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should play sports to burn off her energy.
you can message me if you want more suggestions.
2006-07-19 03:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
advise her... That's the natural thing a friend should do when he saw his another friend did a mistake...
2006-07-19 03:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋