some one help me please?

Question

my husband is stealing money from me all the time well tonight i was going to the store and i went to count my money and it was missing well me and him got into it then i left to go to the store anyways.... when i came back he was gone that was at 5pm it is now 2:23 AM and he is still not back im getting sick of his crap some one help me and i don't want to hear leave him he aint no good i all ready know that give me better advice!!! thanks sarah

Answer 1

You should have never confronted him.....Let him think you dont know...Now the reason for stealing the money is gonna be well hidden...or replaced

I wouldnt mention it again
Actually I would Lie and say I found it!..."Oh my mistake hunny"
I found that in my sock drawer....Even tho you know he took it

That confusion may give you some time to do your own PI work

Take a few days off if possible...Rent a car
Buy Binaculars...and follow his azz

Set him up again with openly layed out money and find out the source

But thats just my advise....I would want to know why!

Answer 2

Why don't you just tell us what advice it is you want us to give you. Everybody will bullshi* you with ways to hide your money. The fact is you don't need a reason to make yourself happy. You don't know where he is and neither do we. But here is a fact. Between 5pm and 2:30am there is somewhere else that he'd rather be. What advice do you want now. Stick around??
Try hard to hang on to just one more day of misery, Sarah? Is that what you want to hear?
No can do. Sorry Sarah, Uncle Groovy says pack up some things and go out there and grasp whatever it is you feel you are worth and deserving of. If you stick around, you are only saying this is the best you can do. If you can't prove to yourself you are worth more than this, you won't be able to prove it to anyone.

I hope this answer just changed a life. Peace.

Answer 3

In a marriage relationship,there is often an assumption that everything is dual property.My wife and I work together and have a shared account,so we are effectively partners in regard to finances and everything else.However this type of arrangement seems to be the exception rather than the rule and the majority of people I know have their own personal accounts which they use for their own needs.
Nowadays with modern banking methods,you can open card accounts and arrange for money to be directly deposited in a nominated account.Bills can be automatically paid and you can arrange for specified amounts to be transferred to another account.
I suggest you make arrangements for your husband to have a specified amount of money paid into his own spending account.Put the rest in an account he cannot access and keep your pin number secret.It is not really necessary to carry much money these days with eftpos facilities around.
Perhaps you should try to get your husband to agree to talk about this with a social worker.It is a problem that you both need to come to an understanding about and this is probably best done by seeking some sort of counseling where you can both talk it out with an impartial referee to help.

Answer 4

keep ALL of your money in a secret place until you have to use it. When you get a chance, talk to him and let him know that you need it for bills or whatever. Ask him if he wants money, and set a weekly or bi-weekly limit. that way you are giving it to him instead. Otherwise, just keep it hidden, if you need to get a locking safe that only you know the combo to, or have the key to. Do not tell him you have it. These are just a few ideas.

It does not sound like he is doing something good if he is stealing it and then when you ask is getting upset. that is not a good sign. you need to make sure he does not have access to your money, especially if you are the one paying the bills. That is not good for a relationship.

Answer 5

my hubby was doing the exact same thing and he was taking the atm card and opening up the new boxes of checks and taking checks from out of the centers of the new books so i wouldnt know for a while...come to find out he had a methamphetamine problem...all is better now though...lol he spent 400 dollars on it in 3 or 4 days and damn near killed himself...his body temp. dropped to 95.9 degrees and his blood pressure sky rocketed and he was dizzy and puking everywhere...after that he said he would never touch the **** again and he hasnt YET...in other words give him a while he will hang himself no matter what he is doing and my husband always told me that me yelling at him for staying gone all night and lying and stealing money just pissed him off and made him want to do it more..ignore the hell out of him when he comes walking in and act like you didnt even notice he had been missing all night..he will start to think about it...

Answer 6

I want to share the experience.
Instead of your husband, it's happened with my wife.
First reaction of mine, I was so so angry and tell her hardly, but she keep doing that until I have no power to angry, speechless, hv no feeling at all, communication just as needed, but instead I really keep my money or wallet together with me when I go to sleep or take a bath.

I give all the problem to God, and ask HIM, if HE care with me do something with my wife, I want her get punishment.
I told this situation to her parent but no help, her parent also can not do anything except cry and cry.

Divorce is only the last chance, and my religion won't allowed me, but I don't care... (and I told her too)

Until someday (after years) she turn back into normal life (to be honest not really really normal, but getting Less and less), she been to her climax and debt collectors was chasing her badly and she was afraid.
At that time I believe God has doing something with her, and slowly she become normal (meanwhile I also nice to her... maybe she feel strange, why I treat her nicely while she stolen, lie and fooling to me)

Maybe sound too religious, but I believe God works in mysterious way, and we also have to act nicely to people harm us

Answer 7

You don’t respect yourself and he doesn’t either. Will it suck leaving him and starting over, yep for awhile. But it isn’t much worse than what you are going through right now. Imagine making personal choices that are best for you. Imagine spending the money he is stealing on a new house or car. Imagine someone looking out for your best interests. It is out there, you have to want and demand better. The hardest part is demanding it from yourself, but you can and trust me, it is so worth it.

Answer 8

HIDE YOUR MONEY ! ! in a new place .. I hide my money from my hubby also , i hide mine in a secrete compartment in my purse . Set him up ...Leave a 5 dollar bill in your purse and tape a sign on it that says YOUVE BEEN CAUGHT ...The leaving part ,, make his azz carry a cell phone .. Start returning the same behavior , you take off and not tell him where your going , then when he gets pizzed "say see know you know how it feels " call around hunt his azz down like a blood hound yell at him in front of his friends cause such a BIG SCENE when you find him he will think twice about leaving like that again

Answer 9

I DO HAVE AN ANSWER FOR YOU AT THE END OF THIS BUT FIRST--SARAH, I HATE TO SAY THIS TO YOU BUT IT SOUNDS LIKE HE'S CHEATING. OKAY--YOU DON'T WANT TO HEAR LEAVE HIM--WHICH LETS ME NOW YOUR OK WITH HIS BEHAVIOR. WHY ARE YOU OK WITH BEING MARRIED TO A THIEF AND A CHEATER?!? I WAS WITH SOMEONE SIMILAR TO THAT MYSELF AND THE BEST THING I DID WAS LEAVE, I CRIED AND HURT FOR A WHILE BUT TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS. ANYWAYS, I WOULD START HIDING YOUR MONEY IN STRANGE PLACES IN YOUR PURSE LIKE AN EMPTY PERSCRIPTION BOTTLE, OR BEHIND PICTURES IN YOUR WALLET, BEHIND CREDIT CARDS STUFF LIKE THAT. WHEN HE'S ASLEEP TAKE MONEY OUT OF HIS WALLET AND SHOVE IT IN YOURS SO HE'S TAKING HIS OWN MONEY. BORROW A FRIEND'S CAR WEAR A BASEBALL CAP OR MAKE HER DRIVE AND FOLLOW HIM-I GUARANTEE YOU'LL FIND TROUBLE!! I LIVE BY 2 SAYINGS NOW AFTER I GOT RID OF MY PROBLEM RELATIONSHIP--IT IS --YOU CAN DO BAD ALL BY YOURSELF, AND THAT YOU SHOULD NOT CRY OVER A MAN BECAUSE THE RIGHT MAN WONT MAKE YOU CRY--THEY ARE BOTH TRUE.

Answer 10

I am not your average liar answering you. I am a doctor of biological forensics. From the information that you have provided the only exclamation that I can see that he is one who is hooked on an an expensive drug like that of cocaine. That can happen to anyone including a minister. Only God that can be the one to have been to address this. soi you addrress this to him face-to-face, hide your money , confront him and then contact me back with his answer. My e-mail address is [e-mail] and my instant message is forensicsben as I am waiting to help and to only go and him to become one again. God bless you and I am waiting. ps I was once hooked on cocaine too !!!