he already got me pregnant and i dont know wat 2 do. Any ideas.
2006-07-18 19:58:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
TELL THE POLICE!! Go out of town for as long as you can , or go stay with a relative. Get away from him!! If you live with him, pick a time he is not there, take a few clothes or memorable items and BOOK IT!! You are not only thinking of yourself here...you have a baby to worry about. If you stick around, there may be no future for either of you.
2006-07-18 20:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by PerfeclyImperfect 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you have encountered scum like this. You need to call the cops and file a report about this(the abusiveness and the threat). There are two reasons for this. The first one is because then the next step you need to take is get a restraining order against him so he won't be able to come near you anymore. The second reason is so when the baby is born and if there is a chance that he wants to try and get visitation rights for the baby then when the court date comes there will be the report filed on him as proof that he is abusive and will not be a good father and he won't get custody of the baby. Do this now for your baby; he is not a good man to be with because if he will do this to you while you are pregnant with his child (or even if you weren't pregnant for that matter) then it worries me what he would do to the baby. But don't be scared of him, that is what he wants, the control. Being scared and submissive is the worst thing you can do right now. Call the police and they will help you out. If you need someone to talk to just to vent and get your feelings out then feel free to email me or instant message me anytime. Just remember, you have the power to fight for you and your unborn child. <
2006-07-18 20:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mike and Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this guy does not love you if he says this sort of stuff. Since you are not married you do not have any legal or spiritual obligation to him or to what he says.
Tell your Mom and Dad what he said and a few other people that will be able to stand up to him if it becomes heated. Contact the police and put a restraining order on him and definately break up with him.
This guy is a total loser and will amount to nothing. You deserve a good long life and so does your unborn child. Give both of yourselves a good life by removing the guy out of the picture. Yes, he is the childs dad, but NO, he does not deserve to father a child that of which he threatens its Mom before it is even born. Be a good Mom and say good bye to the boyfreind. If he loves you and the child he will clear up everything by how he appoligizes..... like lots of flowers along with written and verbal appoligies. If this does not occur, do not let him back in your life. It is not worth it.... but you and the baby are.
2006-07-18 20:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by COOLasBLUEice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and file a complaint.. If you are living with him I would suggest you get out and find a friend that could help you until you can make better arrangements. This friend should be someone who he doesn't know.. The most important thing for you and your baby is to get police help as soon as possible... It is not your fault that he is abusive. He has a big self esteem problem and he is the only one that can solve he problem...
Please take care and get help right away!! Good Luck...
2006-07-18 20:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, my boyfriend is also abusive to me but hear this and please take notice. My boyfriend is a well known (how can i put it) gangster type should i say. There is no one i know that isn't scared of him, me included. we split up two years ago because he went with someone else and although he caused trouble for me it was nothing like i expexted. Stupidly i got back with him but not b4 i got my self confidence back to 100%. Since getting back together he has found out that whilst we split, i went with someone else. I have suffered a few beatings for this since but i have finished it with him again and i know that no matter what he threatens me with i am strong enough to fight him back. I will leave the country if i have to and believe me he has threatened my family too and that used to scare me but not anymore, they can call the police and hes more talk than anything else. Please girl, find the confidence from somewhere to get out of there. There are plenty of refuges to go to and he wont ever find you. Your family can call the police if he goes there. I know how hard it is to believe any of that and you are probably scared for everyone around you that he can get to but you'll c what i mean in a few months time. Good luck x
2006-07-18 23:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, GO TO THE POLICE - get a restraining order or order of .protection. Get it documented that he has threatened and/or abused you. If he does - have pictures taken of your injuries and document the assault.
Find A SAFE PLACE to live - even if it means moving into a shelter for battered women. You have yourself and the baby to protect.
BUT whatever you do - don't believe him when he says:
it's your fault for making him mad
he's changed
he'll never do it again
unless he's gone through extensive counseling AND you talk to the counselor to confirm that he HAS completed the course.
Giood luck to your and your baby.
2006-07-18 20:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you just messing. I read some of your other post and it says that you are trying to conceive?? Don't ask a question if it is not true. You are only 12 you should be playing on your bike in the park not in the bedroom having sex. Also how old is this boyfriend is he 12 too?
2006-07-19 05:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.SoFine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's criminal intimination under sec 309 cap 224 (penal code). You should report to the police. Don't be with him because of frighten or pregnant. A guy who threaten to kill you won't give u happiness.
2006-07-18 20:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggestion to to seek help or get him to go to counseling with u. most men just talk s.h.i.t and when it comes Down to it its just about control. they might threaten you and might go as far and attempt to hurt you a little. but if you truly w. what part of the world do u live research on line want to get away then go to a shelter and not even tell him or any of your Friends. but then again some men are just crazy enough to do something you really need to get professional help. i know most cops wont do anything until its too late
2006-07-18 20:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by y2kdoc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call the cops and get a restraining order. Hide out in a hotel if you want. But don't use credit cards or cell phones he has access to.
2006-07-18 20:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by Lupin IV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋