Is it just me or is society in general more accepting of homosexuality and lesbianism than cross dressing?

Question

I have many gay and lesbian friends and at times it seems to me like they get treated with more respect than I do if I am out en fem.And no I am not going out hitting on men or looking for any kind of trouble,just going about my business wearing clothes I am comfortable in.But that doesnt stop the small minded idiots from doing everything from calling me obscene names to spitting on me.Sorry if I am rambling on but I have to get this off my chest before I explode.

Answer 1

The gay and lesbian community have better PR people, I guess. Seriously, society gets all of this sensitivity training regarding sexual orientation, but most people are completely ignorant of what being a cross dresser means...and when people are ignorant of something, they usually compensate by being jerks.

Answer 2

Things that people don't know about, they are scared of. Today, while being gay is slowly becoming more tolerated, it is still very threatening for a man to want to look like a woman, or vice versa. They don't understand but with time that should change too. There were societies in history that had people who dressed in the opposite sexes clothes and were accepted, it will probably eventually be the same in ours.

Answer 3

This is a surprise to you? What you are doing is a violation of society norms...that automatically entitles you to ridicule and insult. As homosexual partnerships have been slowly gathering acceptance the level of insult directed at these groups also slowly diminishes. However, crossdressing is far outside the comfort zone of most people so you'll just have to accept the freak label or stop the behavior that makes people uncomfortable; it isn't going to go away in your lifetime.

Answer 4

Not accepting AT ALL! Crossdressing? Funny as HELL! (When they're drunk and on "Cops!") Fags? Get the **** real. Stay in the closet and do what you want, but I should'nt have to see that ****. And crossdressing as far as you're concerned? Do it at a gay bar where it's accepted. You're trying to be something you are physically NOT. Faking the funk is not accepted in ANY culture, and being fooled is against human nature; why do you even expect to be accepted? You don't like the way you're treated? Hang up the dress. And for you to be so personally "uncomfortable" with the way you are treated when you are wearing your "comfortable" clothes doesn't sound to me like your comfortable at all. So choose want you want. You can't have you're cake and eat it too. You have the right to wear your dress, and we have the right to not accept it! I'm not doggin' you out, but face the truth. You're comfortable fashion choices make me uncomfortable. I'm not gonna spit on you, but I'm gonna be real. That shhit ain't right and you're confused. You call me small minded? Small minded is asking anyone else to accept your beliefs because of your own selfish motives. If people treat you bad when you walk down the street in women's clothing, and that makes you feel bad; THEN DON"T WEAR WOMEN"S CLOTHING! Society does NOT have to make you feel better. You have to do in society what makes YOU feel better. Pick one. Which do you like better? Do you like wearing women's clothes and getting cussed at and spit on; or do you like wearing men's clothing and walking down the street like everyone else? No one has to cater to you, and no one owes you anything! Figure it out, do whatever you feel is right, but shut the hell up! You're gay (or not), but deal with it, and leave everybody else alone. We don't have to like you. Everybody else just might leave you alone if you give it a chance. Try it out.

Answer 5

That really depends where you go. I know that in many parts of the South Pacific Islands there are many cross dressers and they are well respected and loved by everyone. but cross dressing isn't new to them, they have been doing it since the dawn of time. I know a few of these people from Samoa, they call them Fafenis (prop spelt wrong) awesome people.

Answer 6

This is true.

We are visual creatures, and strong visual differences make us uncomfortable, and we also spend time just wondering what the person is up to. There is a strong tendency to think - right or wrong - that if a person is flagrantly away from the norm in one area of their lives that this extends over to other areas.

Answer 7

Unfortunately, it's true - not just you. But gays and lesbians are more visible while crossdressers and transgendered people are more closeted. If there were more awareness of it in society and the media, things might turn around. Here's hoping!

Answer 8

yes becouse it is more obvius if you cross dress even if you are not gay. we have a couple of men come to out church one always wears a dress over trowsers he his fine very nice to talk to. but there is another comes to open events hoe wears scimpy dresses but has stuble our paster said this man is havoing a sex change he calls himself Judie but does not look at all femanin and puts people off (those who do not knoiw the church) I do not think he is ostroside by members but he has tryed to be over friendsly wonting to hug every one how would you react

Answer 9

More visible, easier target. Besides, a big chunck of society still assumes that you are the gay ppl. You get to carry your baggage and ours. What can I say. It sucks.

Answer 10

Yes. I think it is because there has been no TG rights revolution the way there has been for gay rights. People don't know TG folks, well they think they don't, so they continue to assume the negative about them.