Or is that asking for trouble. I'm not married, but I was talking with my mother about taking a Reformation Tour later in life, without my spouse if I ever get married. The trip is more of a time of reflection and I want to be left alone during that time. She said I'm being selfish and I'm going to hurt his feelings. Am I? I figure I am an adult that has a mind and interests of my own, but I also don't want to go around hurting people's feelings.
2006-07-18 19:36:30 · 15 answers · asked by i_luv_the_irish23 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A Reformation Tour visits all the key places of the Protestant Reformation. Depending on which one you take, you can visit Martin Luther's home and church; and visit all of important cities that he visited throughout Germany. That's the one I want to go on.
2006-07-18 22:29:30 · update #1
I would not like my husband to travel without me. If he does not bring me with him I would like him to be a male friend that I can trust in him.
Some of you may name is as untrustworty but this is me. He knows this and did not object.
2006-07-18 19:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by tapsev 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously this all depends on how strong and trusting your relationship is with your spouse. My wife takes at least 1 trip a year without me - usually to visit a close friend or take a trip with a couple of girlfriends - and I encourage it. I trust her completely, and this time apart gives me an opportunity to do some of the things I don't normally do when we're together - like watch Sci-Fi flicks, head to the ballpark for a baseball game, or just piddle around with my old project truck. Plus, there is no better feeling than seeing your wife for the first time after a week apart. It's kinda like a 1st date - full of excitement and nervousness.
2006-07-19 08:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by digitalrancher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a brilliant concept! a million. it is 2 a million/2 years away, in case you artwork, initiate putting some money aside now on your trip. That way it won't do away with from the family trip. you may desire to be waiting to get a sturdy fee because 8 of you're going. 2. only because of the fact he does not take any journeys does not recommend which you won't be able to. possibly he feels jealous or placed out which you're going without him and the family. enable him understand that it is okay for him to wreck out along with his friends whilst he needs a weekend. 3. of direction your first priority is your loved ones. you have been there for them. You deserve it sluggish for your self. You earned this time which includes your girlfriends. i think of that it is undesirable that he could threaten you with divorce in case you circulate. it is so significant to be your man or woman man or woman and do what you want to do. sure, you do have infants, yet this does not recommend which you end residing. He has 2 a million/2 years to get used to the concept you're taking a weekend trip.
2016-11-02 08:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by belschner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime, we want to be alone.
To be alone can be any different way, one of them is same as you mentioned.
I'm married and my wife understand that I need go with myself sometime, doing the things that I like to do, just to fine my self fresh again, (of course not doing against what we had committed or hurt other feeling).
Doing the hobbies or traveling a short days is OK, when I get back home, I could tell her what I just did and how happy I am, and so the relation between us will keep maintain a good one.
How about her? if she does the same things? at first I feel worry (because she is a woman) but then I let her go too, I can not selfish of myself.
Keyword: Understanding and Commitment
2006-07-18 19:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jakarta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking a trip without your spouse, as long as your spouse doesn't have a problem with it. Relationships should be based on trust and understanding, and the trip you have in mind isn't exactly threatening...it's religious. Personally my husband takes a trip every year without me so he can check on his brother and I actually enjoy the alone time. We trust each other...and we really enjoy the welcome home!!
2006-07-19 01:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents take trips apart without each other and they've been married for 48 years! They said time apart is good for you because it allows you to be alone and do things. Nothing wrong with that!!!
2006-07-18 20:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by wejacgar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is something that you nned to talk to your spouse about. every relationship is unique and takes different turns. i think that the answer would be if it bothered your spouse why would you want to do it? would the tour be worth making your better half unhappy? if it didn't bother them, no problem, but you are talking about marriage! that is a comitment for life! you are saying vows because you love the person.
2006-07-18 19:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't allow my dad (even though it's not up to me) to go on a vacation alone, it scares me to much, considering liar he is. But I still love him, no matter what. My trust in him just got broken down.
I am pretty sure my Mom wouldn't really like my dad to go on a vacation trip alone.
2006-07-18 20:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask the guy...
there aren't two people who think the same way, on earth. So, if you want to know if you're going to hurt your (future) husband's feelings, ask him if it bothers him, once you've met him.
I know I wouldn't mind so much. But as I said: people are all different. You'll have to ask the guy.
2006-07-18 19:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust eachother and love eachother, there should not be a problem. Sure you will miss eachother, but you can talk on the phone while you gone, right?
2006-07-18 19:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by Bubba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋