I cannot stand conflict and try to remain on good terms with everyone. I do not think this is a realistic approach to life and I realize that this approach can prevent me from doing what I want in life; however, I have yet to learn a mindset that allows me to experience conflict yet remain at peace with myself. Any words of wisdom?
2006-07-18 18:49:12 · 12 answers · asked by JMY1998 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
start doing things for yourself - treat yourself to a facial, new clothes, pedicure, etc. these things can help you build your self-esteem, which is crucial in driving away your worries about others' thoughts.
it's not a bad thing to try to stay away from conflict. just make sure the conflict isn't caused by YOU.
2006-07-18 18:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by dreamnnsomniac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put meaning behind things that perhaps others dont. What is conflict to you? Conflict has many different meanings..and to some asking a question poses conflict. Everyone looks at things differently, doesnt mean one is right/wrong..its just what we believe. Just because 2 people dont look at something the same, doesnt mean there should be conflict. If you see a lot of conflict, maybe it is within yourself. Be more open minded. Dont be afraid to say what you think. There is no right or wrong. Its how we perceive things that make this happen. When you see something you want to approach, but fear conflict..ask yourself..."what am I make this mean" or what will they make it mean...if there is conflict..talk it out.... Communication is the key!!!! If you are looking for more insight....I got the best when I took classes... Look up landmarkeducation.com on the internet.... Changed my life!! good luck
2006-07-19 09:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by jh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing in life actually don't bother what people think about you, cos you know who you are . However in a friendship there's a take & give , you've to learn too. You can't always win & you have to try to listen to others too & please try to listen in a positve way & in that way you'll not be conflicting with them .
Having lots of fiends are fun but the pain will also be in there...have a handful of good understanding friends & the one that you're not able to stick too long...just a hi hi only
A certain type of friends when you're not in good terms , just listen more with a smile & try to blend in...but without much comments ....
You should do what you like & as long as it'll not affecting your reputation ....Remember a good friend always give you a good advise / prevent you from doing wrong...& at times when we're not in the situation of accepting , a conflict may arise ...actually without realising that this shouldn't be happening if you aware of it ....
Good luck to you & am sure things will be ok if we able to accept both way.............
2006-07-19 02:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you stand for. I don't like conflict much either. But I am a Spiritual guy. Christian Actually. When it comes to a passion in life, I need to defend my beliefs. You need to learn the balance of stepping on toes with out scuffing the shine. If you have a bible at home, have a look at James 3. It might help set the guide lines for you.
Good luck.
2006-07-19 02:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by Steve W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot avoid conflict if you define that as 2 or more people having different opinions on the same issue. You do not have to create confrontation out of those situations however. You can be who you are and, if you allow and accept the other person(s) to also be who they are, you can discuss any issue without confrontation.
It is all about respect. Respect for yourself, first and foremost, and respect for everyone else as well, regardless of how their ideas or actions might differ from your own.
2006-07-19 02:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by Pat Benage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, myself, have the same view as yours. I'm passive aggressive. It's something I've never been able to live down. Instead, I've found a vast network of friends and closer relatives. In the end, I've had to come to terms and realize I must excercise good moral judgement and values for these people who either look up to me or need me when they argue with each other.
2006-07-19 02:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Koku D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just going to make yourself miserable, i suggest you talk to a therapist about it, if you dont put yourself first then you end up putting your family at risk. you dont need conflict, so if people bug you just say ok i dont need this, goodbye
2006-07-19 04:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jist dont care wht the world thinks about u. You are wht u are.
First learn to accept yourself the way you are.
2006-07-19 03:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by !i!i!i!FaRnAzA!i!i!i!i 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remeber that the the things that makeyou diffrent from every one else are often the things that are most liked.
2006-07-19 02:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by fairy00006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about everyone else. Take your mind off yourself. Do good for others.
2006-07-19 01:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by Howdy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋