Why won't my husband have sex with me? Not even when I initiate it?

Question

Our sex bwfore marriage was great now it just dies.

Answer 1

I'm going through the same thing, Stress will do that, Recently we have had set time aside for "us". Try new & exciting things, liven it up a little. Men tend to get bored with the same "thing". It will slowly get better. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Truth hurts. As a woman we tend to think negatively of why he's not having sex with us even if if initiate. Just ask him y instead of letting you suffering mentally. It better you know now rather than later. I know some wife finds it hard to ask such qns to their hubby but what are marriage for if we ca't communicate. Just ask him y and are you the cause. So long his always with you, not busy smsing, chances are his not flirting. Don't drag matter too long.

Meanwhile you can try add some spices to your sex life. Try to wear sexy night gown or sexy night cami to boost him alittle. Im married for almost a year and though sex life seems not so great as before marriage, I won't let it die away. Once awhile I burn aromatherapy oil just to relax both of us with a reason that the room stinks but somehow it's just one of my tactics to seduce him!

Answer 3

Let me tell you. You have to keep it exciting. Create spontaneous situations. Romance, Even if he is not the romantic type. Put on a football Jersey. With noting on underneath and say lets play a game of football in the house. That will definitely get him if he likes football. But make it a surprise. Or if he is out in the garage working on a car. Surprise him and let your imagination run wild. When the romance is gone. You have to create it. The imagination is your partner. Let it take you where you need to go to excite him.

Answer 4

1. He needs a physical. There are several things that could be wrong that he's afraid to discuss with you.

2. He may be depressed. Again, he needs to see a doctor.

3. He may have unresolved anger towards you. He will, and maybe you both will need to see a counselor.

I'd try the first two, first.

Answer 5

well u prolly had sex so much before marriage and now he could be a lil bored. or work has stressed him out some or maybe he has someone else on the side.. yall need to talk .. get some answers.

Answer 6

there is a myriads of possibilies out there to explore ranging from affair to impotency. Nevertheless, DONT ASSUME AND GUESS,just demand it like its your lawful marital rights,protect it like the sovereignity of marital landscape, employ dominance and crush any oppositon you faced to exert control over your husband 's indifferences, put all that conventional women's disposition aside, if all that fails maybe its time you start reading Jilly Cooper's novels

Answer 7

I couldn't have sex with my ex because 1. i was exhausted from other responsibilities. 2. She was very mean to me so I lost feelings for her. 3. I couldn't finish in her so why start? Hope this helps.

Answer 8

first of all you have to ask your husband, who better than him to answer your question dont you think?
my bf of almost five years dont have sex with me for the following reasons:
1. I nag him
2. I make drama
3. I gain weight
4. I dont wear sexy outfits
5. he feels like he is gaining weight
6 he is tired.

I wouldnt say your husband is cheating on you because I DONT KNOW HIM. that's why before jumping to a conclusion, you better ask him.
good luck chica

Answer 9

maybe u have to make some change.l mean modify yourself.Don't always stay at home as a housewife.Go out n let make people get intrest with u.Make your husband jealeus.But make sure don't go too much.U must know at where u have to stop.lf not u take care yourself loh.Don't blame me oh.

Answer 10

From past experience, I would say he is thinking about or is having an affair. But of course, you should just ask him. Ask him what you are doing wrong and what you need to do.