The parents planned poorly for retirement. The kids have helped by continually sending money and paying some bills. The parents have assets they could sell, but choose to take their kids' money. Is this wrong? Is it wrong for the parent to call and ask the kid where the money is when it's late?
2006-07-18 18:23:39 · 13 answers · asked by shygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
On one hand: the parents did raise the children and paid their bills for 18+ years. That should mean something, and it's nice that the kids want to help their parents.
On the other hand: the point of having children is to propogate the human race, and raise a child to become a functioning member of society and to become self sufficient. What kind of example our these parents setting for their adult children?
My grandfather and step grandmother did not plan well for their future either. My mother is wracked with guilt and torn between burdening herself with the responsibility of their care, and living the life she has set up for herself. (my grandfather and his wife did not raise my mom) Because my mother is a good person and loves her dad, she wants to help him, but feels burdened by them because they always ask her for help and not for the help of my step grandmothers children. Which is also unfair.
It's not really fair that the parents who should be self sufficient and adult enough to take care of themselves should be asking for total financial support from their children, who they didn't have to bring into this world.
The point is: children NEED support. Adults shouldn't. The elderly, should definately get financial support, and I'm going to assume that these parents are retired. However, there are other ways around that. Besides, it sounds like the parents are manipulating their kid, which is a big no-no in my book.
2006-07-18 18:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by militantfairy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they have assets its dead wrong....just tell them that you cant afford this. My parents have 2 houses and you could be sure I would tell them to sell one. And its not even about the 18 years, Parents are expected to support their kids for 18 years, and if you're parents have stuff they could sell off...then they should and let you keep your money.
I mean don't get me wrong, I would help my parents as much as possible, but you should be OK with YOUR bills and stuff that you want to buy for YOURSELF first.
2006-07-18 18:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answerer. Additionally, the kids should be happy to help their parents out - the parents gave everything they had for the kids when they were young. Back in the 1940s (and probably for many years before that), many boys quit school after 8th grade to go to work to help support their families (some girls too). You only get one set of real parents, don't disrespect them.
2006-07-18 18:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents raised the kids for 18 years and spent there money on the kid..what do you think
2006-07-18 18:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by conundrum_dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to help your parents out if they really need it. After all they did raise you. The parents on the other hand should be grateful that their children can help them out, not be greedy about where is the money. My husband and I live with my parents for basically the same reason. I don't regret what I do for them.
2006-07-18 18:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by mopargrapeape 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been taking care of my parents for years, groceries,cash, dinners out, clothing, any thing they need. even though i have 2 brothers whom make twice as much as me, they never ever help out! But i look at it this way, what comes around goes around. One day my kids will probably be taking care of me, the government sure won't!!! SS is a joke. Maybe the parents are holding on to assets to pass on to you. Mine have nothing to pass on, and that's okay by me. Money never stays for long, remember that.
2006-07-18 18:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the kids don't have a problem with it, then that's exactly what they should do. Odds are, the parents spent far more raising them than they'll spend paying a few bills!
2006-07-18 18:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Parent, & I would not ask my children ever,to consistantly pay my Bills! It is not your fault, that they did not plan wisely. If you don't put your foot down now, this will ruin your life.You don't need a Guilt trip, either!. I feel you've done more than your share. STOP!
2006-07-18 18:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by sqishieears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most parents wouldn't ask their kids for money, but ask yourself this, if you found yourself in dire need for money, would you first look to your parents? Probably yes!
2006-07-18 18:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone is being taken for granted. It is time for a little talk about just how far and long this financial situation will go.
2006-07-18 18:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by KELLY S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋