ok my boyfriends been acting weird and i want to know did i do some thing hes friends with my cuzin and he said ever since his dad die he hasnt been the same i want to ask him but his dad i mean he told me his dad died but not why
2006-07-18 18:10:43 · 19 answers · asked by unkownfemale 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's probably not ok. My dad died about 8 months ago and I'm not ok. Talk to him. Ask him if he is ok. Tell him he can talk to you. Sometimes I crave for someone to talk to but I don't want to bother people with my feelings.
2006-07-18 18:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As people are saying, losing your dad when you are young is terrible. Such an experience can be very confusing and really shake your life up.
Let me just tell you what happened when my wife's mother died. My wife is Puerto Rican and (I am not). For most people here, the family is the most important thing in the world.
For that reason, my wife was acting weird since her mother was the foundation for a huge family and a saint. (How many men say that about their mother-in-law?) It nearly ruined our relationship because she felt I should have been more supportive while I didn't know how to be more supportive.
Now if you think this has a happy ending, you are probably wrong.
We stayed together until recently because my youngest son just graduated from high school and will leave soon for college, and I am having to spend most of my time in Luquillo (NE coast of Puerto Rico)
overseeing the care of my elderly mother while my wife and son are back in Yabucoa (SE coast where the surfing is better at this time--You see the sacrifices I make?)
The point is that we are probably getting a divorce soon since both of us feel that the other doesn't meet the other's emotional needs. Now if this boyfriend really feels that your cousin understands him and is supporting him now, well, it will only hurt more later when you break up.
But maybe he is just confused, and if you find the way to really help him at this time (I don't mean sex, at least not right away, because that could really get him crazy), then as I was saying if he feels he can rely on you, you could have a solid relationship.
So, just be patient and watch carefully since if he ends up with your cousin or someone else, you will find someone who goes better with you or else you will have a stronger relationship because he will trust you since he knows that you support him 100%. Either way you should have a fine future.
2006-07-18 18:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to not push. He is grieving. You must not have been dating for too long if you don't know how his Dad died. He may not be ready to talk about it yet. He will when he is ready. Back off a little bit. If you push him he will feel like you are needy and your relationship will probably fail. Be patient with him, and give him the space he needs to get threw this.
2006-07-18 18:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by momof2borninmarch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His dad died and he just told you? You don't sound like you know him well enough to be bf/gf here, dear. Back off and give him some time to cope with this life-changing event.
2006-07-18 18:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his Father passed away, due to something really bad ,or, even violent, you just don't know.So give him his space to grieve, & I'm sure if you stand beside him, he'll eventually come around, & talk about it. He's still in pain.
2006-07-18 18:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by sqishieears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no doubt that your boyfriend is feeling down. and im guessing he has gone all quiet and not telling you anything when you ask how he is. dont worry, thats just how guys are. we dont like people pressing us and asking whats wrong and how we feel. just give him space, let him know youre there for him, and when he is ready he will talk to you.
2006-07-18 18:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his mother is still alive, I would talk to her and ask. I would also mention to her that you are concerned about his behavior and how he is reacting to the loss of his father.
Maybe he needs some counceling. They BOTH might need it if it was something like suicide.
2006-07-18 18:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is grieving and trying to figure out how to deal with his feelings. Just be there to listen and to talk. He needs sympathy and understanding.
2006-07-18 18:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by miso1cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his acting weird has nothing to do with you. Just talk to him and let him know you're there for him.
2006-07-18 18:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by benita4fun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him time he will be alright.. guys like to keep their feelings in alot..but offer to talk to him..just the 2 of you sit down where you can be alone and just talk about everything that is bothering him and is on his mind
just give him time..he will be alright.
2006-07-18 18:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋