It has been like this for the past 3 years after I had a severe auto accident, as well as going thru menopause. Nothing seems to help and he seems angry sometimes and sarcastic. I simply feel empty and not humane, lacking these feelings. I have tried seeing a doctor about this to no avail and am wondering if I will ever get my life back. Does anyone else feel this way? What have you done?
2006-07-18 18:03:46 · 11 answers · asked by j h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is really a difficult area of life. I had to have a significant orthopedic surgery and about a year after that I had to have a hysterectomy. Not only was I in constant pain and trying to recover from my orthopedic problems, I was thrown into immediate menopause. I did lose my sex drive; face it, how can you feel sexy, intimate, and passionate if you are looking at physical therapy, are in a cast, in a neck brace, have surgery upcoming, hurt like hell and cannot lay down, hurt like hell and cannot sit up? Then, have your hormones play havoc on you, making you have night sweats, cry at nothing... sound familiar? Have faith, it does return, but it takes time. If he won't go to a marriage counselor, or your doctor to have it medically explained,
then, you must take faith in the fact that he does love you, just doesn't like what's happening right now. You both are hurting ... I hope you can weather the storm...been there, done that.
2006-07-18 18:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like there are 2 separate issues here. You either have no feelings for your husband which may be a result of some underlying resentment or anger between the 2 of you. The other is lack of sexual desire which may be a result of your accident or drugs you are taking. Sort this out to define the real problem.
2006-07-18 18:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by daveinsurprise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you both happy sexually before your accident? Did it all come to a screaching halt after menopause or the accident or both? have you had your testosterone levels checked since going through menopause? Many millions of women have a sharp decline in sexual feelings after menopause, but are able to balance everything out with prescriptive medications. get a second opinion, even a third, until someone listens and helps.
2006-07-18 18:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try increasing the amounts of vit. B6, B12, E in your diet. also try adding Don Quai, Blessed Thistle, Saf Flower, Plantain, Damiana, and Black Cohosh to your diet. mind not all at once, and not in large amounts. talk to a herbologist in your area (or your doctor) before hand if you don't know how much to take.
also try having your husband turn you on with masases and the like.
also if you like i can look up other things that might help, such as presure points, and other aphrodeshiacas (i think thats how you spell it). E-mail me if you have any questions.
2006-07-18 18:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by DarkStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 54 years old and I dont get a chance often to have sex with my wife. well, I have done alot of things like taken Viagra and sleep in different rooms away from my spouse. Finally, my life has come back together when I visited my brother who told take patience in life and everything will be fine.
2006-07-18 18:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going through a stage in life that every woman has to go through and men don't understand the half of it. Although he may feel like your not paying attention to him ittimately try explaining it to him or if all else fails (lay there and fake it)
2006-07-18 18:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by Answer4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counsiling to find out what is going on. It may be physical, or mental issues preventing your from performing. There are medications for woman to increase sex drive. Maybe too, it could be your thryoid. I go through this sometimes when my levels change.
2006-07-18 18:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by barbaradjt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband no longer feels like your other half, perhaps you would either consider counseling or if that fails, a divorce. if he is not the one, then the one must still be out there. you both deserve somebody that better suits you and will make you happy forever. its not too late to find love again. it's never too late.
2006-07-18 18:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by callieRach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,I know that Meds. can make you feel that way. Tell your Dr. exactly what your going through, & he can give you something, to help this problem. Sometimes those desirers change, & it could be your Hormones, causing this.
2006-07-18 18:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by sqishieears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish to tell you the answer but you have to IM or e-mail. They are too personal.
2006-07-19 04:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by seabug_46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋