I have been married for 13 years, We are 29 and 30 years of age. We have 4 children. No cheating has occured. He is jealous of my clothing, new friends, new jobs, family, even the time I spend with our children. It sometimes drives me crazy!!! I thought about ending the relationship..but came to my senses. I love him ..
2006-07-18 17:53:20 · 26 answers · asked by violet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jealously is a direct result of insecurity. He probably thinks he's not good enough for you to want to keep him and he may not even realize it on a conscious level. If you want to stay in the relationship, give him lots of reassurance of how wonderful you think he is!
2006-07-18 17:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 2⤋
You have to have communication. He obvisouly fears something...maybe he has thought of cheating himself and it dawned on him that you are cheating? Or it can also be the new self esteem you seemed to have found with the new friends/job/clothes...etc..He feels left out maybe and is threatened...its normal..of course i dont know how long its been going on and what really is going on...but be positive ..ask him why he feels that way...when u go out with the children it should be all of you..you are a family after all..and yeah its nice ot have friends, but your a married woman so he should come along...dont leave him home...if your in ur 30s then you married before you were even 19...which means neither one of you ever had a real social life...being single...this is harsh on couples when they realize their kids are old enough to care for themselves and the parents wanna "LIVE LIFE" ...just remmeber to do it TOGETHER...
take care
2006-07-18 17:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are just like that. He just wants you all to himself which I think is OK. Me and my husband have been married for five years and don't have any kids and call me jealous but I know that when we have kids it's gonna take my time that I have with him away. I eat, sleep, work, play around and do everything with him and g-d forbid if he looks at another woman. And the same thing for me. I guess it's easier on us cause were both really jealous. I love him to death and I don't get along with my family anyways and we live out in Cali and his family is out in Florida anyways. So I always have him all to myself but if it really does bug you just talk to him. The best thing in a relationship is to understand eachother and be able to talk to eachother about everything even jealousy. Good luck and he does love you if he didn't he wouldn't act the way he does. Imagine if he stopped being like that one day wouldn't that be weird for you.
2006-07-18 18:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa&Michael U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and Jealousy are very closely intertwined. In between insecurity creeps up. All these, when put together create a scene that you are experiencing. He is jealous of your new contacts etc, because he fears that you may prefer them to him. He doesn't want to lose you to them because he still loves you, even after 13 years. Probably he has an inferiority complex in him making him feel inferior to you. Probably you are more beautiful, earn more and are more popular than him. Whatever, the basic idea is that he doesn't want to lose you. Keep that in mind. Assure him of THAT and he will change in all respects. All the best to you.
2006-07-18 18:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by sunilbernard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you hot? Seriously. I'm 33 and finding receeding hairlines, gray hairs and bulges in all kinds of places. He may be insecure that he will become old and ugly and you will upgrade. This kind of jealousy is cute, sad and harmless. Have lots of talks with im about it and keep reassuring him that he is your only one, ever. Stick by him, you have a lot invested and you love him. ...and he obviously doesn't want to lose you, so be good to the old lug, he may be going through a tough time turning 30, even if he doesn't admit it.
2006-07-18 17:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if it's jealousy as much as its fear you are growing in a different direction then he is ready to be in. Maybe he feels everyone gets your attention more than he gets it. You need to plan some time for just the two of you - get away together without the kids - and see if you can get him to open up to you and find out where his fear is coming from. And then you need to make sure you include him in all you "new" stuff. I'm sure he is feeling really left out of your life right now.
2006-07-18 18:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet he's cheating on you. I've learned that when someone is jealous its because they are afraid your doing what their doing. Its like that saying goes, when you point your finger, you have 4 pointing right back. or take one to know one. If I was you I'll be on the look out he could be cheating, not saying he is, just saying maybe. Or, it could also be he's going through his "midlife crisis", maybe he feels like he isn't doing enough for his family, and himself, and is frustrated with where he's at in life and taking his frustration out on the family.
2006-07-18 18:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Advise = ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My experience tells me that when a guy is jealous, he is usually fooling around. If you know the way you dress makes him jealous, why dress that way?? Make time for you and him --date night or something so he isnt jealous of the time you spend with the kids. I would just be cautious though --jealous men are usually cheaters!
2006-07-18 17:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by jiffypop88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your husband have issues. How can you be with someone that's jealous of your time spent with your children. Husband or not your kids always come first. This says alot about you.
2006-07-18 17:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Tuffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may get some million dollar answers, but it is real simple. It is FEAR OF LOSS. Even though that action can drive them away instead. Just talk about it and open up to each other.
2006-07-18 17:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey a man is always going to be a man even if your faithful because they know we women look good and he don't want other men to wish the have what he got ............and about the children tell to chill out or get up and come chill with you and the children
2006-07-18 17:59:06 · answer #11 · answered by monique h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋