Hypothetically, if a co-worker has caused you embarassment, how would you confront them?

Question

A co-worker, in order to evade service, stated that they were "me". I was stunned at this response, and am not sure if I should state how embarassed I was, and how embarassing this action is for the business. What would you do?

This deals with service of their personal lawsuit. You must also assume that I was not present when this was stated, I was told through other individuals who were present.

Answer 1

Id be straight forward about the whole thing, I mean you are adults! Id let them know that under no uncertain terms did I appreciate them including me in their deception, and they need to make it right!

Answer 2

First, they did not cause you embarassment. You chose to be embarassed over what they did. Don't bother. Waste of your time.
Second, arrange, in the best way you know how, to have the person, the person they lied to, and you in the same place and ask them there and then to correct their actions. Thank them politely, then if they get upset, tell them that if they have anything further to do with causing further problems you will have to get all three plus the supervisor together to decide what is a fair thing to do, as you are concerned for the co-worker's feelings. They'll back down so fast you'd think they were a knocked out cobra.

Good luck. I've used it. It works.

Answer 3

if this is a presistant problem stay professional never stoop to being anything less, i would confront this person aside and make it clear that this wont happen again to you or anyone else. comunicate, although its no excuse for what she did it could be somthing that was comonly done someplace she worked before. youll get the whole your making a mountain out of a mole hill or your overreacting it wasnt any big deal. but just be prefessional and polite, some people just a nudge and if that doesnt do it then i would have to agree with the other poster a sledge hammer works too.....

on the other hand if this is a one time thing let it go pick your battles this person could have some bigger issues and you dont want to get bogged down looking like someone who wants to fight over every thing.

Answer 4

Meet with the person, in a PUBLIC place like a restaurant - not at work, and not a bar. Talk to them about your concerns and feelings. Is there anything they can do to mitigate the damage? Do you have any recourse if they don't? Try to reach a concrete agreement. Get it in writing- it does not have to be a formal, typed up document, just "Hey, will you write me a note about this. I want to be sure I remember everything".
It is better to deal with it than to let it fester. Good Luck!

Answer 5

First admit to yourself that the feeling you're labeling as embarrassing, is really closer to anger.

It's usually best to speak directly with your co-worker about any problems you're having with them, immediately.

Tell them what you observed them doing, and that you had a problem with their actions and why. Be very matter-of-fact.

Accept their apology graciously, then say something to lighten things up a bit and let them know you have no hard feelings.

... If this doesn't work, you may consider asking your Supervisor to sit and talk with both of you to straighten out the situation.

Answer 6

With my size 14

Answer 7

I wouldnt. Theres a little book at barnes and noble you should read called "Book of Dirty tricks for the office".

Answer 8

take a ten pound sledgehammer to work with and let your imagination due the rest.

Answer 9

tell them....only way...if they are mature, they can handle it..if not, well? then you never know how its gonna go