Would you condone it? Would you encourge him further?
Would you stopp him from persuing it?
2006-07-18 17:36:00 · 23 answers · asked by realdream1 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would just say, "I love you, son and I support you in whatever you find that will help you be happy." Support your children, as long as they are not hurting anyone or themselves.
2006-07-18 17:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't actually have children, so my answer will have to be hypothetical. But I think I'd say "Okay. Go ahead." I'm deeply convinced in the bottom of my heart that there is absolutely nothing with homosexuality, crossdressing and anything that departs from a man and a woman in a heterosexual couple (as long as it envolves two consenting adults). So, if a son of mine wanted to dress like a woman, I would certainly support him. That's at least what I think now, that I don't have any children. I hope I'll stick to this if this ever really happens.
2006-07-18 22:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on his age. LOL My brother around 4-5 yrs old played dress up in my mom's cloths. It was fun kid stuff that no one in the family treated as anything else. As an adult, he doesn't get the queen thing. Gay, yes, but not effeminate and not into effeminate men.
Assuming he's enough years beyond 5, I'd talk to your kid with a whole lot of heart because you love him, want him in your life always, and genuinely want to know him. Find out what's going on. Encourage him to find his real self, and encourage him to join an LGTB group if he doesn't have a community of support. He's more apt to find friendship there than elsewhere, and if he's not gay, relax, gayness isn't contagious. You should also consider PFLAG for yourself. Cross dressing and homosexuality do not go hand in hand. I just don't know of any other group that can give you realistic guidance and support.
BTW, homosexuality goes back at least three generations in my family -- ostrasized aunts and uncles. We weren't brought up with real queer acceptance, but we were not brought up to hate or condemn either. Point is, allowing my bro to play kid dress up didn't make or encourage him to be gay.
2006-07-18 19:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be open about it, if I had a son, he'd be my son, I wouldn't care what he wore in his sexual life or social life with other crossdressers/non sexual stuff, whatever.
Well you know what I mean by not care, like I wouldn't like a daughter be a whore or a son go to elementary school with beer hats and shirts on.
2006-07-18 20:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just condone it really. i would buy him dresses and make up and all that jazz for his birthday and x-mas, but i wouldn't care so much. I'd also support him, and maybe become more protective of him, since i know he would get beat on in school.
2006-07-18 17:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by gaygoddevil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my son came home and said that to me...Then I would be by his side all the way...You know no matter what he is ..He will always be my son and I will always love him for who he is..No matter what...If he gay,bi-sexual-homosexual or a cross dresser...It does not matter...HE IS MY SON til the day I die....
2006-07-18 20:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by topnotchcouple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would no more be able to stop him than anyone was able to stop me. It is something that we are genetically predisposed to do, nothing anybody can do. I would talk with him, and let him know that I love him no matter what. I would give him my full support and let him know to never be ashamed of what you are.
2006-07-19 02:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by JML 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a cross dresser myself I would allow him or her to wear whatever they felt comfortable in.But I would also warn them of the negative attitudes alot of people have about cross dressing.Like I would beat the sh#t out of them,or cut off his head.Its NARROW MINDED people like this that really get my goat.
2006-07-18 19:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by enquiring mind wants2know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he'd be my son, and my love for him unconditional. i'd support him in his future endeavours. it's his life afterall and if i was embarrassed to walk down the street with my son who's wearing a dress... what kind of father would I be ?
that's just me...
2006-07-19 13:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by i_am_nathan_2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go for it. It doesn't really affect you, it's not like he's forcing you to dress a certain way, so you shouldn't force him not to dress a certain way. People should be allowed to be creative and express themselves however they want.
2006-07-18 17:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by metalheart19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋