i am not trying to push him so i dont even talk to him about marrage. but i want to get married. we live together and have a 2 yrs old child together. but he doesnt know that i want to. im 22 and he is 21 about to be 22. i have a friend that got married and she is 20 and so is her man but she is telling me dont even try it, it is hell. what should i do?????
2006-07-18 17:30:38 · 16 answers · asked by miss mix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just ride it out, if you try to push him he will just run. Marriage is hard, and people change alot through their 20's. Wait and if you are still together in a few years when you are both more mature than it will happen.
2006-07-18 17:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by Marlene 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should wait until he is in a perfect mood and hint things 2 him about marriage but dont ask him just throw him obvious clues that u want 2 get married or u could wait which a friend of mine waited 4 him 2 pop the quest and he never did and now shes not married with an 8yr old son
2006-07-19 00:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by rw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm. You really did things backwards to begin with. If you are living together and have a child together, then for heaven's sake you should be able to talk about ANYTHING, especially marriage. If you can't, or think you can't, then someone is too immature to be in a serious relationship. Let alone have a child. Sheesh. Talk to him. Tell him what you need, what your child needs. Be an adult.
2006-07-19 00:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by readtobe2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get married!!!not at this age anyway. I got married young and I regret it so much....I didnt know what I truly wanted out of life and out of a lifetime partner until i reached 30 yrs of age....Now I'm traped in a loveless marriage I cant get out of because of the kids and I regret it everyday.
Take your time experience life and discover within your self what you truly want before you get married.
2006-07-19 00:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did I miss something here? No where do you talk about your feeling for him. All you say is you want to get married. Why? Also if you don't know how to get married it shouldn't even be a consideration.
2006-07-19 00:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by charmingchatty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in such a hurry! If you pressure him, he might run away. Ask him how he feels about marriage without telling him you want to get married now.
2006-07-19 00:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think for your child's welfare. Tell your partner about your concern for your child. Maybe he also wants to get married with you but doesn't know how to tell you about it. Be open with each other.
2006-07-19 00:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by Charmaine * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are happy now then leave it alone....hubby and i had dated for 8 years and had no problems whatsoever...we got married when our son was a year old and have had nothing but problems ever since...the last 3 years have been a living hell....
2006-07-19 00:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by valerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the friend but talk to ur boy friend when u r both at a peaceful place and have time to talk, there's no alternative to a frank discussion...but pls. dnt do this discussion in bed !
2006-07-19 00:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by Nisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go very slowly. Your friend's experience does not have to be yours. Just make sure you and your boyfriend are ready for marriage. Make sure you both want to tie the knot, just because you want to. Not because you want to please someone (or yourselves).
For some marriage is a formality, but if for you it is a special important step. Then (again) make sure you both are ready.
2006-07-19 01:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by umbralatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋