2 yrs after the divorce my ex-wife and i get along great but i fear that may go to hell if she finds out that me and her best friend are falling for each other
2006-07-18 17:28:25 · 10 answers · asked by maike j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I'm of two schools of thought.
On one hand, it's not a done deal and you and your ex's best friend are not in a real relationship yet. So give it time and see what happens. If you come out to the ex too soon, and you both don't work out, you are back to square one. alone.
On the other hand, what you do, is not the Ex's business any more, so tell her that you are dating her best friend. She may not like it, but it's up to her to honor her friendship with her friend, and her friendship with you.
I think you should go with telling her, as it's better that she hear it from you and he best friend, before she hears it from somebody else.
Good luck.
2006-07-18 17:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Khalen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are divorced, but if your x's best friend is a true friend she should have told her or should be telling her this instead of you. No matter who she hears it from, you are in for an *** chewing buddy!! BIG TIMES>> Something tells me though you dated her while married , and if you did, shame on you... There are alot of people out there to date, why would you even consider doing that to your x unless your first intentions were to hurt her., and trust me, this will do it.. I personally wouldn't blame her is she never spoke to either one of you again. My opinion.
2006-07-18 17:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, assuming that you both got divorced under the same understandings, then it should not matter. If you are really worried, consider how you would feel if she started dating your best friend.
2006-07-18 17:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jim T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres really no best way , shes going to feel betrayed.. so u mine as well just break it to her gently but honestly and hope for the best..
2006-07-18 17:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no best way to tell her but i have to say before u persued this relationship u really should have thought it out. hope u have a happy relationship with her and good luck
2006-07-18 17:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by khalilah w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the problem , you aren't married anymore so it shouldn't bother her...You can still remain freinds
2006-07-18 17:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have kids together the why do you give a $hit if she cares?
Damn, grow a set, will you?
2006-07-18 17:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over the phone...LOL That way her reactions are limited.
2006-07-18 17:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by ChefCooksalot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't one! Hope you live to tell the tale!!
2006-07-18 17:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by jiffypop88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is your ex, who cares how she will feel, she will have to learn to deal with it
2006-07-18 17:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋