Ok, heres a little background info. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really do love em and I'm pretty sure he loves me and he treats me better than any guy Ive dated (im just 18 though). But mom tells me he's a dead beat...He just graduated highschool (ill be a senior) and he hasnt got accepted to go to college and he got fired from his job! He rarely has any money to take me out on dates (when we do go out i usually have to pay my way and sometimes his too!)...I'm getting tired of it but i really do love him...what do you think I should do? and what are the perks or being single and being taken??? Please give me some good detailed advice!
2006-07-18 17:10:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
...he does say he will go to college (he's very intellegent he just wont work!), he's going to a community college nearby but he cant get financial aid...so i dont know :(
2006-07-18 17:20:33 · update #1
Ask him what he is going to do with his life, if you don't like the answer then move on, you have a lot of stuff to take care of for your self right now, then to be tied down to a dead beat.
2006-07-18 17:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need somebody new because hes a loser. I mean come on he has not been accepted to any colleges, he has no job, hes broke, no car, does not have his own house, and he does not seem like he has any plan for his life (thats lame). There are ALOT of other boys to choose from that can make you feel the same way he makes you feel (sometimes even better), that actually have their **** together. Move on. Oh yeah and a perk of being single is that you can sift through all possible boyfriends until you find THE ONE, you dont have to worry about being tied down to somebody, you can do what you want when you want to (more YOU time).
2006-07-19 00:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE IS BLIND..for sure especially when you felt that this is the man you love. But rem LOVE cannot fill your stomach when you are hunger and LOVE can turns to HATRED when nothing comes right. My dear young girl, as a mother of a young teen I can truly understand how your mum feels. She is right and obviously she loves you too much that she foresee the hurt you will be going through if you continue this unstable relationship. Since you already mentioned that you are tired of the insecurity he is giving you I would strongly suggest you to re-consider the relationship again. As the chinese proverbs says: "It hurts more if the relationship grows deeper." There is still a long bright future ahead of you and it doesnt make sense to go further where there are millions of chances out there. I am happy that you admitted your tiredness so why wait further? Is not wise to go further.. THINK ABOUT IT!
2006-07-19 00:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Priscilla N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you need to leave him...being taken is always nice if you have a great relationship you know 50-50..yours is not that way...now being single and starting your senior year you can make the best of your final year..and you will be open to find a guy going in the same direction as you..good luck
2006-07-19 00:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know there are even some grown, "old" men out there who can't take care of themselves. I like to surround myself with people who lift me up and not bring me down, whether that is emotionally or financially.
Maybe you can back away from him so he can make sure he takes time to get himself back on his own feet and/or perhaps you could be his encourager in a positive way. Since you have a connection, see if you can find what would interest him and if he will ever be motivated to pursue something significant. Maybe help him network once he finds out what he might like to try next?
I personally tire quickly with men who can't take care of themselves financially. However, I will still have them as a friend, just not a boyfriend material.
2006-07-19 00:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by wendy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres what I would do. I would tell him that if he doesnt go get a job or go to school that you are going to leave him. I was in that same situation with my ex boyfriend and I left his ***. Thank god. But anyway tell him it would be in his best interest to get a job or do something to help out in the relationship. There are some perks to being single, like you dont have someone up your butt all the time,or you dont have to tell them where you are going and who you are with. Good luck!
2006-07-19 00:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by cougar c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay let me tell you there are good and back thing about being single, but remeber you are justing going to be a Senior and you want to be able to go hang out with friends, and do your own thing and no worry about a BF. Plus if he doesnt have a job now and No money thats what you can look foward to for a future.. is that what you want? i didnt think so lol!! good luck
2006-07-19 00:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....if u really love him- then just talk to him one on one about making a living- or a least a job! And if he still doesn't- maybe u guys should take a BREAK. Just 2 give him some thinking time. Thats how i would handle it.
2006-07-19 00:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by Beach Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he make an effort to do anything? If not, tell him that you can only keep going through this relationship if he starts getting things right (like getting a job).
2006-07-19 00:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump that motha focka bieng single is the best partying not haveing worry about any one getting mad for talking to the oppistie sex and if he has no money to take u out the skrew him he needs a job
2006-07-19 00:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by toast4_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋