THREE different doctors have diagnosed me as transgender. I have been on a DOCTOR DIRECTED hormone replacement therapy for over five years. I am now comfortable and happy with who I am, but society and my family have disowned me, despite the doctor diagnoses. I did not choose to be this way. I did not ask to be this way. I have no choice is being this way. I am who I am and there is NO magic fairy dust or drugs to cure it. (For you religious fanatics, prayer does not work either.) I am NOT sick, I am NOT ill. THREE different, separate doctors have all diagnosed the same thing.
Do I abandon doctor recommendations, or do I live my life for me and accept who I am?
2006-07-18 16:54:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I've worked as a CNA specializing in post-surgical care for FTMs for several years, and I've come across many who feel as you do. You should do what's right for you, live as who you know yourself to be. There are lots of us out there that will still accept you and care for you, no matter your gender.
I've have friends and family turn away from me because I'm a femme who dates FTMs.....
I never chose to love FTMs, but it's been so natural for me (unfortunately, I am living in a state where finding them is next to impossible...*sigh*...where are you guys??) If you ever want someone to talk to, drop me a line. I may not be transgendered, but I've gotten to the point where I really understand where you are coming from.
2006-07-19 02:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Try to accept who you are. It may be hard, but you are not alone. There are many support groups out there for people that are transgendered. I know alot about this firsthand, my dad is transgendered, and had the sex change operation a few years back. There are a few family members that took the news really bad. My mom's parents still won't talk to my dad. I know it isn't a choice, but a fact of life for you. Society just doesn't really understand the issue of being transgendered. It is kinda far out for a lot of people. I don't know how old you are, but here is one support site for teens that you might be interested in. It is www.golivewire.com. It is a pretty good site, there's a few other transgendered teens on there you could talk to. Good luck with everything.
2006-07-19 00:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by consumingfire783 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live your life miserably hating yourself? Hello. Harsh as it is to say, if your family has that much trouble with this, going off the hormones and reverting to you physical sex probably is not going to result endless warm fuzzies from them. They would still have their issues. Besides, would you even want to be around them after such a sacrifice?
Live the way that brings the most happiness and fulfillment to you. That's the only way you will be able to pass on those positive feelings to anyone else -- which is the essence of life that makes the world go round.
2006-07-19 00:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that being disowned causes unhappiness, but abandoning the treatment will make you even more unhappy. I'm in a similar situation. My family will not accept it and it's very depressing. I've decided I have to live my life for me, and it's their loss if they can't be happy for me. I've also taken a friend's advice and looked at what I do have - loving and accepting friends and co-workers - rather than what I don't have. My friends give me the strength to be me. Good luck to you.
Quiet Phoenix - come to NYC!
2006-07-19 12:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by captlex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need doctors to tell you something you already know....deep down you know who you are...You need to project it forward and live your life to the best as the women you want to be.. It will be a hard journey but at the end..no one will be more happy then you! If you go as far as sex reassignment there are some wonderful doctors to help. There is a great facial feminization procedure that will help erase the person on the outside and help the one fighting to get out to be seen!
Good luck doll and I wish nothing but the best for you!
2006-07-19 09:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by sexybreifs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Live for yourself. Obviously it's not a choice (why would you choose to feel like you're in the wrong body?). For your family, don't give up on them just yet. Maybe give them some time to adjust, but eventually give them a call, write them a letter, or something to let them know that you still love them and want them to be a part of your life.
You only get one life to live. Don't let it be a lie.
2006-07-19 00:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are yourself for yourself, not for society, not for your family. I think joining a support group or finding other people like yourself to talk about or make friends would be very good.
You're not alone in the world, and don't give up on yourself!!
You should try to explain to your family and everyone else, that you ARE you, and were always you, your gender shouldn't change anything.
2006-07-19 03:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by Adam G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept who you are and to hell with what anyone else says. At the end of the day, the only one who has to liveYOUR life is YOU. Why should you live it in misery just to make a bunch of narrow minded simpletons feel more comfortable? Screw 'em!
2006-07-19 00:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by eljonez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, live your life for you..you are right you're not sick or ill...the problem of being transgendered is not your problem...it's your family's problem...not all of society have disowned you. I haven't. Good luck. Be kind to yourself.----I'm a GWM
2006-07-19 00:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your family they may or may not come around over the years live your new life to the fullest.
If you would like to talk send me an email I would be happy to become friends.with you.
2006-07-19 00:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by realdream1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋