MASTERBATION problems?

Question

i am 34 he is 38. I believe i look good as do other men.I am 5'4 130 brown eyes reddish long hair. i give my decription because THE problem feels like I AM THE PROBLEM. very active sex life about 2-3 x a day, different areas evan outside, sex text during day,seductive pics to him on occasion and sleep in the nude BUT he stills jacks off ON SIDE OF ME almost daily. I had this problem for years with him. Told him i didnt understand why he does it, it makes me feel inadequent as a women. he KNOWS it takes but a minute to get me aroused so i could help relieve his "pressure" but he still does himself ! can anyone help? why would a man want to do his self when he has a nice looking naked woman next to him. I have asked to watch him, do myself, he wont while i watch... remember we do keep sex and intimacy active; new areas, new positions, revealing clothing the works! 2gether 4 18yrs, have 3 teenagers together so this is not a new relationship trying to learn one another

( he waits till i sleeping)

Masterbating is not the problem- -on side of me is or outside when im inside in bed

Answer 1

Men don't always masturbate because they have a poor sex life. You have to remember that a man and his penis have a very intimate relationship. You could almost say that it is his best friend. I have asked many many men the same question, and you know what they have told me....it is just habit. They have been doing it since they were like 14...everyday. It is part of their routine...like brushing your teeth or combing your hair. He may not feel quite normal going about his day without doing it. It is also his "me" time. You should respect that, and try not to take it personally. If you don't like where/when he does it...talk to him. Obviously, you have a decent relationship and something like this could be easily discussed. But DO NOT try to take it away from him, or make him feel guilty. It has nothing to do with you as a person or as a woman. From how you describe your sex life he is more then likely satisfied, so I wouldn't worry about that part.

Answer 2

Really!! 2 - 3 times a day and he still wacks off besides that? Very remarkable.
Well, as a male I can tell you that masturbating is a whole lot quicker and easier than having sex with another person.

I don't think you should feel that it is personal, if he does you 3 times a day I think you should thank him for not bothering you for number four or five.

We men as boys masturbate quite a bit and it can become a habit just like smoking. It may be something he enjoys and could not stop if he wanted to without working at it real hard.

I say let him do it and don't be offended by it. He loves you and his hand instead of another woman. Isn't that a good thing?

Answer 3

If you are the only woman he's been with for 18 years, I wouldn't worry about it, even if he's looking at other women while he's masturbating. It's just something that some guys have to do to cure a wandering eye. My wife feels the same way when I do the same thing that your husband is doing. I also have an active sex life with a naked wife willing to do almost anything I ask of her. But I have had sex with only 2 women my entire life. I like to see what else is out there and it improves our sex life because I can get the urge to wander and explore out of the way and concentrate on my wifes desires. It seems like he's doing things not just for himself, but for you as well. I would also guess that he is ashamed to have anyone watch because he thinks its sinful or naughty that he's masturbating,or he may have had someone "walk in" on him when he was younger and disipline him for it. That's just my experience.

Answer 4

paLEAse woman! If you are having sex that much why do you care??? If he was ignoring you I'd say it was a problem but 2-3x a day after 18 years??? Come on- most people in much younger relationships are lucky to find time 1ce a week! Would you rather his hand or another woman? Men just need it more, and I bet he goes longer for you. Get over it. It's no big deal!

Answer 5

Maybe he has an overactive sperm gland or something and maybe sometimes it is just easier to relieve it himself. Honey if you have been married for 18 years and still have that good of a sex life then you shouldn't feel bad about it one bit. It may be something medical that ya'll don't know about. Who knows, but I wouldn't feel one bit bad if ya'll are still doing it that much after 18 years. Hell most people that are married for 1 year don't have that good of a sex life!!

Answer 6

Honey, news flash they all jerk off with or without you, they is just another way of him getting his grooves on, don't make it an issue, if he is still hitting it in the bedroom then let him jack all he wants who gives a flying f^cccck, maybe you should get the pocket rocket and go to town when he starts the jerking, don't worry be happy!

Answer 7

Maybe he feels like it's something he's not supposed to be doing, or is wrong to do, and that's why he doesn't let you watch. I would feel the same way as you if I were in your position. I don't know, but the only thing I can think of is that he thinks there is something wrong with it, or feels guilty about having you do it.

Answer 8

It's 100% normal. It's not affecting your sex life (2-3x/day after 18 years and 3 teenagers is GREAT). Don't worry about it. Even better - take care of yourself while he's taking care of himself.

Answer 9

Don't feel inadequate. Some people just feel the need to get themselves there also. Some people just can't be completely satisfied unless they do it that special way. He also may not want you to watch bcz he feels guilty or bcz that is just his private way of getting there. I think it is quite normal. Don't worry!

Answer 10

I think that if it does not in any way affect your sex life perhaps you should let him,

what is the matter if every one is still sexually sattisfied

Life is problematic enough as it is why sweat the small stuff?