MASTERBATION problems?

Question

i am 34 he is 38. I believe i look good as do other men.I am 5'4 130 brown eyes reddish long hair. i give my decription because THE problem feels like I AM THE PROBLEM. very active sex life about 2-3 x a day, different areas evan outside, sex text during day,seductive pics to him on occasion and sleep in the nude BUT he stills jacks off ON SIDE OF ME almost daily. I had this problem for years with him. Told him i didnt understand why he does it, it makes me feel inadequent as a women. he KNOWS it takes but a minute to get me aroused so i could help relieve his "pressure" but he still does himself ! can anyone help? why would a man want to do his self when he has a nice looking naked woman next to him. I have asked to watch him, do myself, he wont while i watch... remember we do keep sex and intimacy active; new areas, new positions, revealing clothing the works! 2gether 4 18yrs, have 3 teenagers together so this is not a new relationship trying to learn one another

Masterbating is not the problem- -on side of me is or outside when im inside in bed

Answer 1

he's jst used to doing that... if he takes care of you and enjoys the sex he has with you then don't worry about it.

Answer 2

maybe its just one of those thing that you have to learn to accept. I'm 21 years old I've been with my girlfriend for about 4 years and I find her very attractive. sex....... about 4-5 times a day and some how I still find time to mas..... you get the Idea. I think its just in our nature! I'm not even sure why I do it. I think we are kind of like dogs, they lick down there all the time but I don't think its because it taste good. Have a talk with him, if that doesn't work then look at it from a bright side at least you still get action. some women your age don't get nearly as much as you do. good luck! hope this helps you.

Answer 3

I know the tension I jack off all the time and have sex in between. I think the imagination and the active sex life plays off you another.

Answer 4

2 to 3 times a day???

With teenagers in the house??

Oh please...what fantasy/fiction publisher are you writing for?

Answer 5

If he has been doing this for a while, it's probably not you. I know myself and alot of my friends enjoy masturbating to porn or other things, even though we have totally healthy sex lives with our girlfriends/wives. It's just something men do, try not to take it personally

Answer 6

That's a long time to be with a man! I don't get this either???
I think I would be hurt too. Have you really talked to him about this? I don't know....there could be alot more to this...but I wouldn't want to assume anything...you need to seriously talk to
him...surely there is an answer...but I'm sorry I don't have it.

Answer 7

his dick is desensitized from years of masturbating. He is so rough when he jerks off he cant feel anything with a normal (I am guessing your vagina is normal) vagina. Think of is as a velvet gloved compared to an iron fist.
What he needs to do is stop jerking off 100% and eventually he will regain the sensitivity. If he cant stop (God knows I cant) he needs to start masturbating with a lubricant so his dick doesn't take so much damage

Answer 8

Are you being satisfied? If yes do not worry.

A friend told me once that men masterbate 1x a day even w/active s*x life.

Answer 9

there are a lot of men who continually have regular sex with their wives or partners but still w-a-n-k on the side on a regular basis. your husband obviously belongs to this category of overly horny guys. and so do i. perhaps, what you should do is talk to him and convince him to incorporate your his w-a-n-k-i-n-g with your foreplay as a couple. more specifically, you can give him a hand by giving him a handjob, b-l-o-w-j-o-b or boobjob. good luck. cheers.

Answer 10

Sounds like he has a very high sex drive. I wouldn't worry about it... it's not a reflection on you. ANd think of it this way.... at least he's not out running around on you.