my twin sister. she was my best friend untill she slept with my now x bf
2006-07-18 16:36:39 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am sorry that they have done this to you. It must really hurt but for you to move on and not carry all the deep hurt, forgive her. I know it will be tough, but before you forgive her, please tell them how you feel and then forgive her. You obviously love your sister because you are asking for advice. I will pray that you find the right guy for you and I truly believe that you will because despite what your sister has done, you are considering forgiveness. You are a very big person and may the Lord bless you. Take care and best wishes.
2006-07-18 16:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by sam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As usual, everyone picks one side or another since that's what they teach in school.
In real life, with a serious problem like yours, sometimes you just have to go with your heart, listen carefully to the other person and to others who can help you like parents, relatives, counselors, etc., make a decision but be ready to change course immediately.
For example, I am pretty sure that I will be getting a divorce soon but I can't push for it too hard because my kids have already suffered a lot. So I just have to be a little patient, and since my youngest son is going off to college, we can get a divorce once he settles into his studies or not.
I am not totally convinced that we will get divorced.
However, normally when in any relationship, one person savagely betrays the other, the person who is hurt gets out of the relationship if possible.
But a sister will always be your sister so the question is how does all this effect your family? Maybe they couldn't afford to have both of you in two different places but probably a separation at least for a while would be best for everyone. You see, you don't have to decide alone, and even if it is terrible for a while finally all of you will find the best solution so that everyone can get on with their lives. love, rkl
2006-07-18 16:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, question is, why did she sleep with your x bf? Who knows, maybe he mistook her for you. Talk about irony -_-....
Sure you should forgive her, there's no use about keeping a grudge. Even if you don't forgive her, it wouldn't change the fact that you're sisters (twins at that) and she made a (huge) mistake in the past. Just... be careful. History repeats itself.
2006-07-18 16:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by laidbacktionist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, well... guys are jerks - is this guy worth giving up the relationship with your sister? Did she maybe do this to prove that he's a jerk? Or was she just being mean?
Unfortunately we don't get to pick our family, and for some reason that means you have to love them no matter what. However, you need to find out why she did this and then based on that, decide if blood really is thicker than water.
2006-07-18 16:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by tinydancer42001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd understand being mad for a while. Maybe untrusting for a long while. That definitely calls for a long talk about trust and how she hurt you ... when you're ready to confront her. But yes, she's your sister, and you are stuck with her forever and though you may be mad and not like her right now, you still have to love her. Also, I'd steer her away from a sleazy guy that would sleep with sisters!! If a guy would stoop that low, there isn't much he wouldn't do!
2006-07-18 16:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by wildlotuspetal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that had to happen to you. She wasn't thinking about you so move on without them. 2 tell you the truth, I would of f*cked up her car or sleep with 1 of her future bf's. But that's just the blackness coming out of me. I don't know how mad you are but I would of fought her. I don't know if that would make you feel better though. You have 2 release your anger somehow or you will never get over it.
2006-07-18 16:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK just forgive. Family will stick with you forever! Friends may fade away but at the end of the day, family is all you have.
2006-07-18 16:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by mk_girl4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it's going to be you have to forgive her because she is always going to be your sister. Forgive but don't forget. Don't let her near any of your future boyfriends.
2006-07-18 16:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister has growing up to do, but forgive her anyway....
Obviously, the guy wasn't worth the time of day to anyone.
She'll always be your sister, and you'll probably never have to see him again.
:)
2006-07-18 16:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by snugglebunnies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is short. Don't go carrying this chip on your shoulder for too long. But my advice would be to leave this guy and find someone new. Your sister will always be your sister no matter what happens, don't leave her for a guy who is such a sex maniac.
2006-07-18 16:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by georgina298 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋