will the feeling ever come back
2006-07-18 16:30:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
nope it's call separation just give both of you adequate time to think about it.
2006-07-18 16:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love your husband then hopefully your willing to put some effort into saving your marriage. I would say the first step is to determine why you don't want to sleep with him. And by sleep with him I assume you mean have sex. Is it because he is no longer physically attractive to you? or are you angry with him over something? whether it be money, kids, work, chores.... Or is he wonderful and your just uninterested. Determine where the problem really lies.. because you used to want to have sex with this guy.. What changed? Once you figure out what changed then figure out how to fix it. Now these steps may take the help of a mediator or counselor but if your communications skills are well established the two of you should be able to work this out together. And it will bring you closer. If you find the problem is not with him but yourself.. Your angry over nothing in particular, for instance. Then see your family doctor. You may be suffering from depression. It is fairly common so do not be ashamed.... Okay.. so you've determined the problem ( hypothetically) now lets come up with a solutions.. If he is no longer attractive to you, Why? Weight gain? hair loss.. who knows. Focus on the fixable problems.. If you hate his height well maybe your just redirecting your anger from a deeper problem. I used height because its not a fixable problem like some physical things are.. he can shave, get a hair cut, hit the gym... wardrobe makeover.. all sorts of things.. If your angry with him figure out why... search deeply if you need to. Get it out in the open. Okay i'm sorry to talk your ear off but I truly believe most marriages can be saved.
hopefully,
sarah
2006-07-18 23:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will most likely come back. Relationships go though all kinds of stages and those stages come to an end and are replaced with something new. You just have to wait it out. It's tough to stay married sometimes. I've been married 18 years.
I went through a period of about four years with almost no sex at all. My husband stood by me. It was mostly horomones being out of wack. I had no interest in any kind of sex at all.
My husband and I have trouble with communication and it has not been an easy 18 years. I honestly had resigned myself to believing that we would get divorce. I did not think that I would ever have sex with him again.
One day, my sex drive just came back. It was the strangest thing. Even though my husband and I had not really been getting along, he was "there", if you know what I mean. I wanted sex and there he was.
We revived our sex life, but it is different than before. No pretend orgasms any more. Oh no. Never again. I decided that I had nothing to lose since I had already resigned myself to divorce. This time around, I let him know that I was having sex with him because I needed sex. It was not about pleasing him. I was demanding. I made sure he did the things that I had been missing out on. He was so glad to be having sex again, he performed like a new puppy in obedience class!
Reviving our sex life has improved all areas of our relationship. I care about him again for the first time in years. I think he feels the same way. We are doing more things together. I would have never believed things could be so good between us.
Women lose interest in sex for real reasons. Husbands that don't "know their way around". Children to care for. Embarrasment about our changing bodies. Horomonal changes and so on.
In the end, you have to decide if it will be worth it to work through your marriage. Will you really be better off getting divorced and starting over with someone else one day and quite possible a whole new set of problems? Only you can make that decision.
Maybe you could start looking at him as a "sex machine" to please you! It worked for me and my whole family is better off because of my change of attitude.
2006-07-19 00:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by JustLookinAround 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can rekindle your marriage by reading a best-selling book by John and Diana Hagee called, "What Every Man Wants In A Woman, and What Every Woman Wants In A Man." It will encourage you, inspire you, and sometimes even make you laugh. I highly recommend it. You will find it at any major bookseller, or you can order it from John Hagee Ministries at http://www.jhm.org I wish you the best. It's not over til it's over!
2006-07-18 23:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by Shalom Yerushalayim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want to sleep with him?? Did you recently have a baby or hormonal change? Something may be going on within your own body that has nothing to do with him. Find out the root of the problem and then ask yourself this question!
2006-07-18 23:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by jiffypop88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's over. You wouldn't have got married if there was no sex, so why would you stay married if there's no sex. Divorce him and let him go off a find another woman. You can become alone and remain sexless which sounds like what you want anyway.
2006-07-19 15:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by jerryg1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much you love him, and can you live without intercourse, there are things you can do to satisfy yourself. If hes a really good man. There are few out there..
2006-07-18 23:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kat (with wisdom under her hat) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously not yet but if things don't change it will definitely be over. You may want to try a counselor.
2006-07-18 23:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by intheholycity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you pregnant? Just have a baby? On a new medicine? All of these things can effect sexual arousal.
2006-07-18 23:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
and you do not love him
divorce now and get it over with
then see why later why you failed at marriage
2006-07-18 23:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋