I have told him that I don't like this particular name but he still uses it .....What do you think this is telling me psychologically? He insists it is all a bit of fun.
2006-07-18 16:28:57 · 47 answers · asked by ritaallport 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that if you have told him you find this particular name offensive and he continues to use it, psychologically this is telling you that he needs to have more respect for you and the things you say, and he needs to listen to you more. I don't think this is a 'leave him. now!' situation, I think it is more that you need to tell him straight that this offends you, that you mean it and that you think he needs to have more respect for you. This should sort it - if it doesn't, I think you need to tell him again, firmer this time, and if he still refuses to listen and continues to use it you need to either have a serious think about where your relationship is going with his lack of respect, or come up with some way of really making hims top - a nickname he doesn't like for example. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-07-18 23:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by amyeighteenlancaster 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Will you share what he calls you so I can give you an honest opinion. I am adding this on from yesterday. Wow! It must be a real embarrassing pet name for you to not want to share what he calls you. I am sorry that you are going through this with someone who claims to love you. Love is not suppose to hurt. Is he mistreating you in any other way? If the answer is yes and even if it is no, you are experiencing hurt from him. I don't recommend name calling because he will really feel validated in calling you that pet name. You need to tell him that he is an abuser. He is psychologically abusing you because he is not respecting and he is hurting your feelings. I would suggest counseling because I have a feeling it does not stop there by calling you a pet name that you don't like. It sounds like he is controlling and self centered. If he does not go to counseling, you go yourself and I know the therapist will reaffirm that he has no right to hurt you in anyway. You love and respect him, why can't he do the same thing for you? Good luck. I hope everything works out for the best and remember if he don't get counseling, you should to vent and deal with your situation effectively. I will pray that you find happiness in your relationship.
2006-07-18 16:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem? Obviously he wants to make a point but why cannot he tell you himself?
I don't know what he said but I think you must pick a time and place when he is not expecting a straight question. No drink no dim lights no friends and simply say that you do not like the name he is calling you; that you find it offensive?Then,
"What have I done to upset you, will you please tell me?" Don't talk to him about anything else, Say you want a straight answer. If you insist, he will tell you. If not, colo on him and go out with others and see how he responds. I think he will drop the name.
If, not, do you really need this man?
2006-07-18 16:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by Niddy the best 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All in fun or not, if you don't like it, he needs to stop using it. It is a form of verbal abuse if he keeps insisting on using a name you find offensive. If it bothers you so much, you might want to look elsewhere in a relationship. Everyone deserves dignity.
2006-07-18 16:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start calling him sh**head as your pet name for him. There are some people in this world who only learn when it's done back to them.
I also recommend finding another partner. Which is probably what he's hoping for.
2006-07-18 23:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about the name. Tell him you dont like it and the reason. If he continues to call you that pet name that you dont like then come up with a pet name for him that he wont like and then he will probably stop.
2006-07-18 16:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes men use knicknames for women so they don't slip and call you another woman's name by accident. For example some men call their women friends baby because it is a general name and can go for anyone. If he uses a nickname for all of you then he wont have to worry about saying the wrong thing!
2006-07-18 16:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by paula y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't respect you and stop calling you that, then can you
imagine how he would disrespect you concerning other things.
If he seriously cares for you then he will stop calling you
the name.
Is he really mature enough for you to be around? Ask yourself that.
Have another talk with him. Only you know what you can and
can't live with.
2006-07-18 16:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the name? I can't evaluate the psychological aspects of a name that you haven't even submitted for review!
2006-07-18 16:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to disclose the pet name that your partner is using. Otherwise, it is impossible to address the issue.
2006-07-18 16:30:48 · answer #10 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋