well my man left her mother that was his first wife for another lady and that was his second wifeand after 16 years he left that second wife,and know his first 24yrs daughter is taking out all here madness out on me his girlfriend,what could i do? the daughter is making him choose between me and her!
2006-07-18 16:19:51 · 8 answers · asked by calilovebabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, it's only natural that daughters wants their parents to be together. But, the thing is your man has left her mother to another woman first before he went out with you.
Personally, I think your daughter - to-be - if - everything - went -smooth is being irrational. I mean, why did she took it all on you and not on your man's 2nd wife which took him from her mother at the first place?
You and your man have the right to be happy together. If his daughter really loves him, she would have to understand that as well. I think you should talk to her. Tell her that her father and you are happy together and if she really loves him he would want him to be happy. Besides, she's 24. She's an adult. She HAVE TO understand.
2006-07-18 16:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by laidbacktionist 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This has to be a very hurtful situation for you. You're paying the price for all of the family baggage and you haven't even got to the wedding yet. The good news and bad new is that there is really only one way to deal with this.
First, try to talk with her yourself. Focus on the things you really like about her father. Tell her a funny (but respectful) story about something he did. At some point, tell her point blank that you really love him and want to be with him. Ask her to please give you some room so you can be part of the family. It might not hurt to shed a tear or two.
Second, if the first part didn't work, then you and your man have to talk to her together and tell her that she's welcome to be part of your lives but that she needs to accept you as his partner. She doesn't have to like you, but she does have to be civil.
It won't be easy, but it's all you can do.
2006-07-18 16:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is going for revenge unfortunately it happen to you. How could you stuck to that kind of person. Maybe she is helping you but you don't realise it. She knows her dad is not the seriuos kind because the moment he gets married, he will start to create something where everything ends there. I think you should befriend her. Try to get close to her. Study her first e.g what she likes and dislikes. Good luck
2006-07-18 16:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by catwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't anything YOU should do, this is a situation your man should be handling. He needs to discuss with his daughter what the problem is, like a rational adult. She obviously is angry at him, and is taking out on you, he needs to get to the root of this problem as soon as possible.
2006-07-18 16:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 19:23:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now... do yourself a favor. This will happen with ANY woman he tries to get with. This is how wife#1 keeps that hook up his *** 4-ever. Too much baggage. not even worth it, probably!
2006-07-18 16:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is his daugther doin that..she probably want her mom and him to get back..because he left the family..you should all sit together and talk
2006-07-18 16:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is really venting and you need to have a talk with her!!!
2006-07-18 16:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋