my husband and i have both remmarried other people and he was extremely evil in the way he treated me, cheating raping me marrying the one he cheated with and never comes to see our daugher i still think about him some stupid thing everyday for a few mins or sometimes several minutes sometimes a memory or just wondering what he is doing if he has realized i was a good person and is sorry.Even though i hate him and take pity on him and would never go back to him never and am very happy in current marriage i just don't understand this what are the chances he feels the same? anybody ever experience this.
2006-07-18 16:01:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds abusive. If he was...well that really never completely goes away. Its kinda like a reminder of why you left too or something triggered a thought. I have those too, but don't feel any love towards him. Its been 4 yrs and now I don't have 'feelings' towards him I just have memories. You can't ever erase that once you did love that person...and they betrayed and hurt you. I don't know if it will ever go away, but over time...lots of time...it will get easier and fewer memories.
2006-07-18 16:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by m0mmatcat 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know where you are coming from. It's been 11 years since my divorce and sometimes I still think of the pain he put me through. But, since he has come out and apologized for all his infidelities last month, he hasn't once crossed my mind, until I read your question. lol.
You'll get over it, and I don't think it's really the person you think of, it's the memory of what could have been if you were treated right in the first place. And that's the hardest to get over.
If you have a great 2nd marriage, then hold onto it cause you deserve it!!!!
But to answer your question on whether or not he is feeling the same, the probable answer is no. He moved on prior to your divorce as he did cheat, so I'm sure he is happy keeping you in the past.
Good luck with your 2nd husband. Wish you many many happy years together.
2006-07-18 16:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think about my ex a lot...Partially because I am still cleaning up the mess that was left from our horrible divorce and marriage. But also partially because I do wonder what would it be like if things would have turned out differently. I agree I would never in a million years go back to him, but it would be nice to know that he feels remorse for some the pain he caused me. I am sure as time goes on I will not think of him or even care what he is doing. Then again who knows. I do know he is a completely different person than the man I married.
Good luck with the new marriage!!
2006-07-18 16:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by la_diablita_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's why you never even consider what he is doing much less if he cares.. why would you
that's shallow and arrogant thinking..
if anything consider this
those who marry who they cheated with end up in divorce in a much hiher ( like 85 to 90 % ) rate than those who stay married and tough it out. this is because once you have showed your willingness to cheat on a spouse, and you marry the cheater, you or the other person will more than likely do the very same thing. it's common known as the fools paradox.
men btw recover far faster from a divorce than women, that because men think in a logical way and learn from the mess, women cling emotional as there vanity and arrogance kicks in with question of guilt, vanity and vested interest. it's irks women to see a man jump right in a relationship so fast when women get shook up and take the very cautious approach.
2006-07-18 16:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex and i have been divorced over 15 yrs both of us have remarried but theirs hardly a day that goes by i don't think about him or run across something that reminds me of him i don't guess you ever really forget or get over someone you use to love and yes my feelings for my ex are the same as yours i cant stand him and i had rather cut my arm off than live with him again but the memories are still there and i don't no why it sure wasn't because he was the perfect husband because he wasn't far from it but the thoughts are still there
2006-07-18 16:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by sclady62001p 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-18 03:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see what you mean. It's not like you want him to be with you, but you want him to realize what horrible things he did to you was extremely wrong and how great you really are. Maybe evewn hope he regrets ever being that way to you and wish he could be with you even though you wouldn't be with him.
2006-07-18 16:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by lees girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a chapter in your life that you will never forget. you have a child together, therefor, she will always remind you of him, one way or another, just do not punish the child for the crap he has put you through, give her lots of love and praise, so she will not turn out like him.
2006-07-18 16:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by ammyownwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cared for him. He apparently didn't care for you, so its not likely he feels the same.......you'll get over him soon enough....just move on with ur life....go out, party, hang out with friends, enjoy the single life again!! Have fun and be true to yourself!!
2006-07-18 16:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER. He is like a chapter of your dairy. You have the choice of flipping thru that page. but it will always be there
2006-07-18 16:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by Rafael R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋