im pregnant and i dont know how to tell my boyfriend?

Question

im pregnant and i dont know how to tell my boyfriend. because i think hes gonna flip out like my bestfirends boyfriend did

i told him and he did not flip out thinkfully. he text me on my cell and said he was coming home and i just told him. in 2 weeks i find out if it is a girl or boy.

i told him on the phone i had to talk to him and when he got home i told him and he totally fliped out on me so now im a single pregnant lady at least i live with my bestfriend

Answer 1

Well, I suppose it really depends on if this is child is wanted or not, planned or not. I gather from your comment that it is a surprise. And from your other question, you think that he might be involved with someone else. If these are true, then I am sorry that things are so tough for you lately. There is only one way to tell him though and that is just straight out. I would pick a time when you are both calm and having a good time. Definitely not late at night when you are both tired and don't have time to talk. Why not take him out to a picnic or walk in the park and sit down and talk about this. I would also suggest that you get your head around what is happening first. Is this child wanted, are you happy (I hope you are as every child is a blessing), do you have a plan. The more you are aware of your own feelings and feel secure in your decisions, the easier it will be for you to face whatever he says. Try to be calm and realize that his initial reaction is not necessarily the end reaction - unless you force him into a situation with an equally big reaction. And remember that you have had time to think this out while he is just being hit with it.
I really hope that things go well for you. Take care!

Answer 2

You need to just sit down with him and tell him the truth. If he does flip out (which he really has no right to do, he did help get you pregnant) hopefully it will just be temporary and he will be there for you. If he doesnt then its fine too, a women is more then capable of raising a child herself these days (it will be hard, but its more then possible). Also your boyfriend and your bestfreinds boyfriend is two different people (I hope) and her boyfriends reaction has nothing to do with your boyfriends reaction. Anyway good luck hope that Ive helped in some way..Also just to make you feel ok...when I found out I was pregnant I told the father and he didnt really say anything and was distant for awhile (not because he was mad) but it took a little while for it to sink in, but he is here for me and a great support person (and we arent even together anymore), so your boyfriend may start out acting one way and then change but because its not something he probably is expecting.

Answer 3

Young men are easily frightened with responsibility. If he hasn't already thought about this positively, this will be the BIGGEST SHOCK OF HIS LIFE. My advice (from going through this when I was a young man) is this: Keep it simple, neutral, and honest. Just lay it out gently.

Then, the best thing you can do is NOT JUDGE HIS REACTION. Your tendency will be to try to protect yourself and try to hold on to his attention and involvement. He may or may not react well at first. Be humble and gentle. If you hold out the invitation to him to join you, and tell him you'd like some help not being alone because you're just trying to figure this out now, too, I think you'll have the best chance for a positive outcome.

He may not take you up right away. Don't freak out on him. Just be calm and let him be himself, and try to grow together on this over the next few days or weeks by just keeping in touch without forcing the issue. Try to make him feel like you'll be his friend regardless (but don't come out and say this -- you may not really feel this way). The idea is to just keep the lines of communication open to see if he'll warm up to it.

You don't need any "big guns" the first day you tell him. There'll plenty of time during the next 8 months or so for pleading, threats, coercion, lawyers, or whatever you want to throw at him in the long run. Just take it easy at first.

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Just read your update. Congratulations. Remember both of your emotions may flip-flop over time because this is a big deal (for both of you!). Take it easy, suspend judgement, and I hope this good beginning turns into a beautiful future for you.

Answer 4

Just sit him down, and in a public place if u wish, and tell him up front that you are pregnant and that you want him in ur life as well as the babies. If he flips out then he isnt a man to be a dad or a man for u. I know it will be hard to raise a baby on ur own but if he doesnt want to be in the babies life and you are young and you cant afford to have this baby, you should put it up for adoption because there are many people out there that cant have children. But good luck in telling ur bf. Be honest with him. And I hope that he will be excited to be a dad and want to go with u to doctor appointments and etc. I hope everything works out the way you want it too.

Answer 5

I would be more concerned if I could take care of a baby on my own just in case the BF runs. There's no guarantee your BF will stand by you. First you need to find a way to tell him. Second tell your family and Third figure out what you are going to do about the situation. Don't get an abortion or you will regret it later on in life when you are older and thinking about all the wrongs you did in life....

Answer 6

it depends what kind of guy he is .
firstly you ahve to decide if you want to get it over with or brake it to him slow.
personally i would first organise a cool date doing something he likes weather be watching his afv sport or a movie or something like that ,go out to have something to eat or just sit in the park or somewhere erlaxing where your not going to be interupted by friends or family .ask him during a conversation if he likes kids and weather he wants any "you can always make up a lie and say a friend of your found out she was preg and her boyfriend dumped her or got angry ,then aske what would he do if u fell pregnant"wait for his answer and then you can tell him you found out ur having a baby ....if he has a bad reaction then not only do u find out he wasent the right guy for you but u dont have to feel no guilt about telling him and worrying about his feeling .if he takes it well then you cna tell him that teh story about your friend wasent true u just wanted to see his reaction to the topic first.
i woudent worry if he loves you trully he will stand by you.

Answer 7

You wrap him up a package of o say bibs that say I love my daddy and stuff like that then you say o (pet name here) I have a present for you (big grin here).
My husband didn't talk to me for a week after I told him I was pregnant with our first, 3 day's with the second and with the third I informed him I was pregnant the day we had planned to scoop up all the lava rock out of our yard (he said okay you will call the Dr tomorrow but in the mean time here's your shovel) :)
Good Luck

Answer 8

Well if this is what u want to do, u must tell him because this is a serious matter. How old are u? and why are u afraid that he will flip out? Did he say he was going to act that way? If u want the baby u do what is best for u & the baby.

good luck!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

The sooner you tell him, the better. You need to give him as much time before the baby comes to prepare as possible. Just explain to him that you didn't plan it. If he is a real man, he will understand. If not, then you have think about you and the baby now. That's what matters.

Answer 10

what is this...a pregnancy circle! People, use condoms! Just because your friend boyfriend flipped out when she told him doesn't mean that your man is going to do the same. unless, they are the same person. just tell him. your going to have to sooner or later. might as well give him as much time as possible to get used to the idea.