He stayed out until 5 in the morning. He told me he was going bowling, but the lanes were all busy, so they all decided to go to a bar, but he didn't let me know about it until the next morning. I don't really like for him to drink, unless he is around me, and he knows this. Should I be mad? Would you? What should I do? Thanks!
2006-07-18 15:59:27 · 12 answers · asked by °kels° 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He went with like 3 different couples... He was like the only one without a girlfriend/ wife there.....
2006-07-18 16:14:30 · update #1
Rude answers like the one from peachyone don't help. They just offend. If you are going to be rude don't answer my questions.
2006-07-18 16:34:07 · update #2
Yes, I would be man. Even if you came to in understanding about drinking out at a bar with out you. You are in a same situation as I use to be in. It sucks.. I get upset when my husband is out driving knowing he is probaly drinking as well. We as woman get worried for our loved one. I don't mind if he drinks just as long he is home. I know exactly how you feel. Again I would be mad. It's not like you don't trust him its that I know I do I get worried sick about him even if he don't call If he calls at least I know He is ok and having a good time
2006-07-18 16:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by sweat mamma bear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get mad? What for? He went and enjoyed himself with a mixed group of friends. So what! Is he a problem drinker? Is that why you "don't really like for him to drink" unless he is around you? Are you the drink monitor? It sounds as if your expectation is that he would have been sitting around anxiously awaiting your return. You were off without him, he went out without you. Don't treat him as if he's a naughty little boy. You are his girlfriend, not his mom and he shouldn't have to check in with you to make sure he's doing something you "approve" of. Show some trust and respect.
2006-07-18 16:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by peachyone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If that is the truth you have no reason to be mad. If you are ever trying to decide weather or not to be mad at someone ask your self if you have ever done anything like that. Ever had plans with friends and then had to change them with the place you were going was full? For Your own mental health you need to figure out why you feel the need to control him so much. This is more about you than him. I don't mean that badly, but you have to get this under control or he will be miserable.
2006-07-18 16:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by Roger S M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to trust your boyfriend to do what he feels is right. You cannot always be there so you can't tell him what to do all the time. If he feels that what you say is right, he will try to listen. But if you are with a bunch of guys, they don't want to look bad. So they do what the other guys do. It's ok, as long as they don't do something that they know is wrong.
So I would leave him alone. If you get too possessive, he won't want to be your boyfriend. They don't want people trying to boss them or telling them what to do at times.
2006-07-18 16:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by fran c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's alright if he goes to the bar and drinks with his friends if he only does it on occasion and doesn't cheat on you. I don't understand the other part of the question though. Did he go to the bar and tell you about it the morning after you returned or the morning after the morning you returned.
2006-07-18 16:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by RuneWitchSakura1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm hoping on your sake, which you're proceeding to alter into Catholic because you individually have faith that it is the main appropriate thank you to worship God, and not because of the fact your boyfriend and his family are Catholic, and you want to thrill them. in spite of the shown fact that, which may be worse? You making up an excuse to no longer attend Mass with them, OR going to Mass with them, and keeping your head up intense, understanding on your coronary heart, which you have each objective of following in which includes your progression in turning out to be a Catholic. the full reason to be there in any respect is to instruct your devotion to God, and you will could desire to learn now, you do no longer could desire to seek for the approval of others, no be counted how plenty you are attempting to impression them. i could think of that a sturdy Christian (meaning his mum and dad and family) could savour which you're taking the stairs to a minimum of sooner or later be waiting to take part. And in the event that they do no longer make you sense that way, then they are people who're out of line.
2016-11-02 07:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by porterii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think it's anything to get mad about. You were out of town so he went out to enjoy himself with his friends. As long as he wasn't with another woman, I don't think you have any reason to be mad. Look at it this way, at least he did tell you, he could have just kept it to himself.
2006-07-18 16:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I would, you know that most man like to get drunk and do stupid things, if he didn't, then how come he did not called? well the answer is obvice, HE was not at the bowling lanes. Hope I help.
2006-07-18 16:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends if he knows that you like this in him or not, if not then leave now, there wil be more of this type of behaviour when he gets the chance
and if he is any sort of good lucking guy
you can bet there will be women waiting in the lurches ready to try him on for size while your gone
2006-07-18 16:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give a guy a longer leash he will appreciate that and know you trust him. Eather you trust him or you don't.
2006-07-18 16:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by DAVID S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋