How should i deal with the fact that my best friend is going out with my ex. and it kills me to see them?

Answer 1

I would say your best friends needs to be your ex friend.

Answer 2

Obviously, it's very natural you feel this way right now, considering you're seeing two of your friends, one of which you were very close with at one time, being romantically involved with your other close friend. You shouldn't blame yourself or look down on yourself for feeling this way, as again, it is natural because of the circumstances.

My advice would be acceptance. Since the one person is your best friend, you most likely want them to be happy and if they're happy with your ex, I'd recommend trying to support your friend all the way. Just accept the circumstances and be supportive of the two, as if they're really happy together, then it's good to be the best friend possible. Even if you miss your ex, keep positive, as there's plenty of people out there you can meet and continue your life with.

Answer 3

She's not a real friend to you b/c a real friend would know that you don't date a friend's ex. It's so completely wrong, I can't even express it to you. She's being selfish. I'd ditch her so you don't have to see either of them. Tell her that seeing her with your ex puts your friendship in a weird place that you don't enjoy going to and that as your best friend, she should have been more considerate to your feelings, so she's obviously not your best friend. However, the one exception to this rule is if she asked if it was okay if she dated him and you said yes, b/c then it's kinda on you.

Answer 4

She is not much of a friend when they started going out..because of the fact she knew you could have still had
feeling for this guy...She was very wrong for going out with him and I think you need to let her know that it bothers you and if she stop seeing him then you know your friend did not mean to hurt your feeling but if she continue then you will know that she was never a good friend in the first place..Sorry but friend sh..it on friends all the time..

Answer 5

The key word here is ex. Get a new girl friend or boy friend and move on with your life. Do not be so hard on your friend, you will be dating someones ex. I am sorry though, love hurts but it also helps us grow if we give up the anger.

Answer 6

Were you best friends when you were dating this guy? If not does she know that you did? If so why would they do that it is an unwritten law you never date your best friends ex. If it bothers you talk to her tell her how you feel,if she is a good friend she wouldn't have hooked up with your ex. Bro's before Ho's

Answer 7

Figure out what feelings you're going through. Are you jealous that someone else with with them? This could be deep hormonal urges. Are you angry that they broke up with you. Turn it into something positive. Take the energy you spend on that and apply it to helping someone out or making a new friend. Admit that you have pain and than sometimes, it takes a long time to subside.

Answer 8

I would say that your best friend is not your friend at all. As painful as it might be, you should just let both of them go. If you told your friend that it was ok for her to date your ex, then there's really nothing you can do. Talk to your friend and tell her how it bothers you, then she will have to choose who she treasures more.

Answer 9

That really does s u c k.
What else is there to do? All you can be is supportive for your BFF, if you're truly his/ her friend, you'll want them to be happy, the same way I'm sure should the roles reverse with you in his/ her place.
Plus, there're plenty of other fish in the sea, so... go fish, lol! Don't dwell on this, move on with your life, you'll find someone eventually who's right for you.

Answer 10

That is not a friend, and those boundaries should be set in the initial friendship!!!! Hey do you really want to maintain any type of friendship with people that would do that to you!!! Two morally inept people can only produce a MESS! Be thankful because that was wrong of them!