i have been married for 5 years going on 6 and my relationship is so boring we have no chemistry we don't really have a chance to go out like regular couples b/cuz i have 2 kids and no family down here but anyway i dont feel any intimacy with my husband unless i'm having sex then again i really dont feel a connection then we dont kiss at all and i love to kiss but all i get is a peck or 2 we dont cuddle when we watch movies at home he's either on the floor and i'm on the couch i tell him all of the time that the spark is gone and all he can say is you are crazy you are to emotional and unstable when i start to express myself to him he trys to change the subject oh yeah his 1st passion is his sports and i feel like im on the back burner he never plays with the kids i mean a quick hi and what r u doing but no bedtime stories or nothing what should i do( plz. help serious people only)
2006-07-18 15:39:58 · 6 answers · asked by TEXXBRATT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Show an interest in his hobbies. Get tickets for the whole family to go to a game. Grab a football and toss it to him while you are wearing a cheerleader outfit. I will e-mail answers to similar questions, but... Sorry, you do not have e-mail on your profile page, maybe visit mine.
How old are your kids? Do you communicate about other things?
I often wanted to cancel my cable / sattelite account and sell the television. Now I just learned to talk quickly during commercials or I will lay on the floor with him. During commercials I nuzzle his neck and nibble his ear and let him know how his kisses used to affect me in detail. I tell him my hopes and dreams as well as trivialities during the day. I used to meet him at the door with a smile and a kiss until he said he just wants to come in the house and relax for a couple minutes. Try helping him relax with a massage or other method. If the kids are old enough when they ask you to do something direct them to him. Ask him what is stressing / bothering him.
Best wishes.
2006-07-18 15:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jill M 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
My husband is not the cuddly type or the kissy type and I am . I love to be close and he doesn't. We started something that my parents do everyday. We give each other a good hug and kiss in the morning when he goes to work and then when he comes home. We have also set aside 10 minutes before bed so that we can talk. It is a time without anyother distractions. No TV, Radio, Kids, Phone Calls, nothing. Even if we just sit there and say nothing we spend that alone time together. When we were first married he played the XBox all the time and I grew to hate it. I told him that it was either that or me and if it was that than he could just leave. He was upset at first that I would present him with such and ultimatum, but I explained to him that occasionally is fine but when it means that I can't tell you about my day or the kids can't play with you, than it is to much...Anything in excess is destructive. One thing I did was tell him I was playing with him and we sat and played a game together...I drove him crazy because I had to ask so many questions but now we can enjoy 15 minutes or so playing it together once a week. We also have kids and so for our date I set up a picnic in our bedroom and when the kids went to bed we had a picnic...we also built a fort in the living room (with the kids and watched "A Bugs Life") under the blanket. We do this at least once a week...It is usually monday because that works for us. On that night there are no other activities. I would also suggest that you try and watch a couple games with him and learn the rules. Who knows he might enjoy sharing that with you.But make sure that you are his first passion now...Good luck
2006-07-18 22:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by EmmaGee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like he might need a slap of reality. if you have told him there is a problem and he has not made an effort to fix it well hmmm ....I am not sure .... we had hit a dry time in our relation ship after 6 or 7 years .... but with lots of talk in on both parts and some toughness from my wife (man I love that woman even though she can be rough with opinion) we both discovered faults that we had and have been correcting them ever since. we promised not to change each other when we first got married but that was a mistake ever one changes as the grow the challenge it to work together on it. good luck
2006-07-18 22:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by sparky657 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been there done that first you have to acept him the way he is or decide to leave because people don't change. and if he changes for a short while a dog always returns to it's vomit trust me you think you need him there for your kids but when you do leave you'll see how much better off you will be besides they might get a chance to have a dad that pays attention to them but tied to him your not giving them that chance! or yourself!
2006-07-18 22:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and lost. If only you 2 could go away for the weekend alone, this would help.
2006-07-18 23:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by fasteddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look into counsling. when yall are watching movies, sit next to him, dont wait for him to move. initate, even if he dosn't. he'll get it.
2006-07-18 22:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by Remi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋