I was raped 4 times. Two of them times was by the same person, Once by my uncle and then by 4 ****** i grew up with. How am I supposed to feel? I really need some advice for this one!
2006-07-18 15:38:53 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
You need counseling. That is the best therapy I can recommend for you.
2006-07-18 15:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you weren't depressed or vengeful or angry or sad, something would be wrong.
It's perfectly fine to feel this way, but the thing is you can't let it consume you for the rest of your life. Yes it's a HORRID thing to have happen but those people should be brought to a terrible justice and you should be able to find some closure and comfort in that. Although, I know there are the "forgive and let God" types and if you are one of them and that works, then fine.
But you need to talk to someone, to try and find some peace within you and to also find a way to be empowered.
I would suggest counseling whether it be a professional counselor or a religious leader or whatever, you need to do that and they can then try to lead you in healthier directions. You can also call a Rape Crisis Center or you can try the The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) http://million.rainn.org/ and see what they can offer you.
Empower yourself. I am sure you fear that this will happen again, - so take self defense or karate classes, kick boxing and such aggressive sports, not only will you get the anger and hurt out, but you'll feel better prepared to handle anything.
I know right now that it seems terrible. But i do hope that one day your experience may become something you cn live with, or something that you can make bigger than you and to help others who have ben through the same.
Please, please, don't let it ruin your life.
2006-07-18 15:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Riverblossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to go through many stages of the feelings, and i do know how you feel i went through the same thing but it was only one week after i was married. no not by my husband i was going to work and i got raped and it was really bad i called the rape crisis center from the hospital and the lady came over and brought this tape and it really helped see if they can do the same for you. please don't give up on life it is hard but you can do this and have yourself checked to make sure you don't have any diseases and most of all you are alive.
2006-07-18 15:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by LENORE P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its perfectly fine to feel depressed and you should consider talking to a professional. This isn't your fault but you may have some problems with keeping your self out of bad situations. This is something a therapist could probably help you with to get yourself out of the victim role, and in more control of your life. Don't let this destroy your life, take control and do something about this, becauuse if u don't trust me you will regret it.
2006-07-18 15:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by M.C. Screwdriver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need professional help. Depression is normal after being raped once. Get help
2006-07-18 15:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-HOPE, is recommended if you want to talk. You can also go to any local YWCA or clinic. You should report it but if you feel like you can't, do what you can to become strong. You will go through many phases, denial, anger, depression...talk to someone.
2006-07-18 15:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by CC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smoothie...it is never your fault when you are raped, yet women often feel guilty and responsible.
I would contact your local women's shelter and ask about counseling or group sessions. If often helps to talk with other women who have been through it and counseling always helps, if you are honest with the counselor.
2006-07-18 15:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by maat13101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to feel depressed although it is bizarre to get it 4 different times.
2006-07-18 15:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be natural to feel depressed but you have to learn to accept the situation and move on by not dwelling on it..although your experience might have been nightmarish you can start to overcome it by realizing there are a lot more people out there who may have experienced more harrowing events in their lives and many have learned to cope with it...be thankful for the good things in your life and move on from there
2006-07-18 15:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tiff here, your sista:
It's more than okay, it's a horrible thing to go through. I wish you're weren't though, honey. You didn't do anything wrong, the rapists are the ones that should be depressed.
I wish you the best.
2006-07-18 15:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone. Like your mom, or a teen help line. Someone needs to know. Stay away from the kid who did it twice. Seriously, TELL SOMEONE. A depressed feeling is normal, but you need to tell someone.
2006-07-18 15:42:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋