why does my husband lie?

Question

why does my husband lie even about the simplest thing i can ask a question and never get a staight forward answer about everything and any thing i have to beat the truth out of him not literally speaking but yeah please help...

Answer 1

It's like Dr. Phil has said many times, (and so have many others for that matter) "People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing." He's hiding something and he will do what ever it takes to keep his secret. Including destroying you, if you let him.

Answer 2

He may feel that he needs to in order to feel more manly??? I used to lie over petty things with my husband and it was because I didn't want to disappoint him on anything...My husband was very patient and now I don't anymore. It was easier to be honest and speak my mind even though it was a lot harder in the beginning. I would suggest coming out and asking him why he does that. I don't know is not an answer. If he can't answer go to counseling and see if they can figure it out...I would guess though that he might be trying not to disappoint by lying...I had to realize it was worse when I did. It may take a long time

Answer 3

I think it's a habit he's gotten into, by the sound of it. Try talking to him, ask him why he does it, and help him stop. Just don't expect him to stop right away - it may be difficult. Don't be hard on him about it. Just look at this like another obstacle to overcome in your marriage. :) He might have gotten into the whole habit too because he's worried about your response. Make sure you reassure him that you won't get mad. I always prefer to be told the truth, even if it's painful; hurtful truth is better than a nice lie.

Answer 4

Sounds like he is a pathological liar. Some people just get so accustomed to getting into shady situations and lying their way out, that they just start to lie for no reason as a matter of course. Or some people become so caught up in a web of lies that they can't even remember what's true anymore.

Sounds like you could use a good divorce lawyer. He'll be easy to catch in a lie in court, though.

Answer 5

All people lie, why? I don't know that.
When asked what was the most broken of the 10 commandments they said, "lieing"
People who would never commit adultry or steal or abuse their parents lie on a regular basses.
jAbout things that don't even matter. Sometimes when the truth would fit better. The average man lies 10 to 20 times a day.

Answer 6

someone else said it - pathological liar. It is a commonly used phrase, but what it really means is someone that has lying as part of their personality. they learn at an early age that they can lie and get out of things, they continue to do it. you can catch them and they will continue to deny or lie about the lie. They can go to bed at night and not flinch about their lies of the day - while the rest of us would lose serious sleep if we tried the same thing. It is NOT something that changes overnight. IF he wanted to change, with serious conseling it would be a long time.

Answer 7

Do you remember Rick Astley?
He had a big fat hit it was ghastly.
He said "I'm never gonna give you up or let you down"
Well I'm here to tell you that Dick's a clown
Though he was just a boy when he made that vow,
I'd bet it all that he knows by now
All men, all men are liars
Their words ain't worth no more than worn out tires
Hey girls, bring rusty pliers to pull this tooth that all men are liars and that's the truth.

Answer 8

all men lie, but for some reason your husband either feels like 1) he cant be honest with you for fear of what you'll say 2) you always think he's lying anyway so why not always do it 3) its the only time he gets a real reaction out of you or 4) he thinks its all a game. But like i ALWAYS say, communication is the key to any strong healthy and productive realationship. Tell him ( calmly ) how you feel and have a mature disscusion about it.

-Tayy

Answer 9

It is very hard to say. Maybe he's afraid of telling the truth for one reason or another Believe it or not , some people are actually compulsive liars.
Maybe you should sit down with him and find out what the problem is.
If the problem is severe enough, perhaps counseling is needed.

Answer 10

He made be trying to avoid lengthy conversation with you. It might be easier to lie than to report every detail of everything he does and what motivated his actions. He wants you to trust him instead of having to answer tons of questions all the time. You admit that you have to beat the truth out of him. Maybe he feels beaten by you and would rather avoid you.

Answer 11

I hate when people tell lies.

"I took like a 50 hour nap" No you didn't...In the words of Dane Cook..If you did that...you'd be ina coma..you mean you took a coma!

Anyhow. I figure he still feels like he has to impress you. That or he is just a liar. At least with a liar you can always expect them to lie. It's the honest people ya gotta watch out for.