please i need some advice to get over it
2006-07-18 15:36:46 · 25 answers · asked by littleshowlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It just takes time to mend and come to terms with it when things like this happens. So sorry for your loss.
The death of my fiancee in January still bothers me a lot at times, but there are good memories that bring me through all of it. It just takes time.
2006-07-18 15:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by Shaula 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went through this when I was getting ready to graduate from high school. I had a friend that died of meningitis, a week later another friend was killed by a drunk driver
The thing that helped me the most is something a friend of mine had said to me. To wipe my tears and overcome my sadness and to always be the way my friends remembered me as being when they were around. They always saw me with a smile on my face and upbeat, they never saw me feeling down and sad and in tears.
That really helped me a lot. It's difficult. It was 16 years ago and I still have not forgotten them, but when I start to feel sad, I remember what I was told .
Hang in there Your friend would not want you feeling sad.
Your friend is now in a better place and I am sure she is watching after you right now and wants you to be happy.
2006-07-18 15:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter to your friend, as a so long I will see you in Heaven gesture. Make sure you include all those things that made that person so special.
Include the good and the bad, be honest to your friendship, be truth full.
Remember that death is just a path, that we all must take, it is not the end, is a pause, and that you will see your friend again, and this friendship will go on.
My heart goes to you and my sympathies. Keep that letter close to you, and when you are ready just put a match to it and see it burn, that way your friend will receive it in the other side.
2006-07-18 15:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sometimes its difficult to try to put it all together and make sense of some things. This is one of those things that will never be understood.
Your loss is very real and you have every right to grieve over such a loss. Its going to take time ... time to heal and time to remember. Your friend wouldn't want you to be sad for long, he/she would want you to remember all the good times you shared together and to smile when you think of them.
Hold close to your family and friends .. they will help you get through all of this. And ... stay in contact with your friends parents if you knew them, they too will need your support to get through all of this.
Nothing right now will ease the pain, but in time it will get better and you will hold close to all the good memories. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friends family.
2006-07-18 15:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry... I lost two friends in car accidents twice in one year so I know how you are feeling. Just think of the good times you had. And remember that time heals the pain. I pray for you and your best friend's family. Just remember that your best friend is looking down on you.
2006-07-18 15:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by CPSweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never ever get over it. You will learn to deal with it. I lost a son to SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) 21 years ago and I haven't gotten over it but I deal with it. Just take one day at a time, that's all you can do. Talk to good friends and family when you have to and even when you don't have to. Lean on your friends and family, that's what they are there for just like you would be there for them.
All of God's Strength, Love and Guidance.
2006-07-18 15:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by Fotios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow yourself the grief. Feel sad - cry as much as you want - and then go out and smile - smile for the sake of your friend, from that part of you deep inside that will never forget them and because that part of you, will want you to be happy for them. It is a tribute to them.
I take comfort in the feeling that I will again, when the time is right, once more see my friends who have passed on. This is not a religious belief - just something I feel inside.
2006-07-18 15:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that i feel youre pain my fav uncle died when i wuz five i cried for weeks you could visit her grave if s/hes had a funeral and write a diary about your feelings it helps to get it all down on paper go through photo albums and remember all the good times you had with him or her
2006-07-18 15:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by jts #1fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your lost. been there my self. no one can say or do any thing to make it any better for you .in time you will feel better but you will never forget. you friend is hopefully in a better place and can more that likely use a pray or two. say one for him/her and ask them to watch over you now and than .you know to be your guardian angel .you were good friends ,that never dies,..i wish you luck with you life. but always remember.good friends are forever .. God bless...i will say a pray with you at 8am tomorrow Wednesday ...pray is the strongest force we have....
2006-07-18 15:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by hammer_031 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My deepest condolences for your great loss. Honey right now you need to be with the family of your deceased friend, and with your own family. Your family will give you the strength and support that you need. Believe me, you need to lean on them for strength during this most terrible of times, and it's OK if you do. Time will heal your wounds, Right now that's what you need. My sincere, deep sympathy is sent with this message. May God Bless you.
2006-07-18 15:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by CuriousGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋