What is the true difference between gay marriage and traditional marriage?

Question

Why should gays and lesbians be denied the right to marry. Love is love and no one can really say that it is ok for one couple to marry, but not another. What would the big deal be if same sex marriage was made legal? By making it illegal, a minority is being denied the same rights as everyone else, which is illegal under the constitution.

Answer 1

I agree with everything you said in the question. I think it should be allowed because no one should have the right to tell you who you should choose to love.

Love is love and fate is fate....it's not a choice like everyone says. I truly believe you are made the way you are. But to answer your question there is no difference. Again love between one human and another human regardless of sex....there is nothing wrong with it.

Answer 2

It seems you are answering your own question and to me you only asked so you could get into a debate with someone. However, let me give you a conflicting view. By making same sex marriages legal we are saying that we will allow anything and everything to take place. First of all you screw up the family life - especially if the same sex couple decide to have children. The child will not have a true mom/dad relationship because it is impossible, no matter how much they argue otherwise. Second of all, same sex marriages are not natural. I don't understand why everyone is saying that it is ok. Just twenty years ago no one would have even thought about "coming out". Now it's happening all over the place. We say that we are "open minded" and so we allow all kinds of changes. We say it's "for the greater good" we only want people to be "happy". But if you haven't noticed the more we allow in this society, the worse it gets. We are one of the worst countries in the world - violence, laziness....all of it because we allow too much. Should we hate people who don't agree with our views? Of course not! I can honestly say that I don't hate anyone. Do I believe that same sex marriages are ok? No. But do I hate homosexuals? No, I do not. In conclusion, the big deal is again, by allowing that we are saying that we will allow anything to happen in this country. One day we will have no laws and then people will wonder how the world turned out to be such a horrible place and only a very few will look back and know it's because our government give us a little too much freedom.

Answer 3

There is no point to making it illegal. I could see the harm if they were making a law that said 5 year olds may bring guns to school because that would harm other people. However gay marriage does not harm or effect other couples or the structure of society.

I am however completely conflicted on where I personally stand on my willingness to get married as a gay person (if it were legal) but that's entirely due to the fact that that level of commitment scares me to death regardless of being gay or straight!

Okay, I just had to edit my response because I failed to see one of the responses above saying that gay marriage would basically lead to anarchy. First off, I strongly believe that there are larger destructive forces in society that lead to the denigration of a family then gay marriage does. In general a gay couple has to go through tedious and enormous hoops to have a family! A couple that has to go to that extreme is less likely to become abusive, neglectful, etc. There are parents convicted every day of abusing their child and they are married!! Aren't they destroying the "family"? Second, The argument that "this law will cause all these other bad laws to be passed" is completely crazy! This has been an argument throughout history with ridiculous topics such as dancing, women wearing pants, women voting, drinking, allowing the seperation of church and state, slavery, etc. And we have yet to be a society in anarchy. In fact we are a country that has the best structured democracy in the world! Good God, get a grip! Since when did two people falling in love with each other and getting a tax break mean the demolition of the "family". If anything it may actually help the ever rising divorce rate and crimes against children!!!!

Uh..sorry it's so long. I guess you all know where I stand on the issue. ha.

Answer 4

i think that anyone who wants to get married should have the right to do that; no matter if u are straight or gay. there is no difference between gay love and straight love - except that gay people are discriminated against by narrow minded individuals, the same individuals that make this world a hard place to live in

Answer 5

There should be no difference between straight people who love each other and gay people who love each other.

Equal Rights are not reserved for only those who believe the bible is the final word on everything.

Twice: Your answer is either pure stupidity or you are parrotting what you have heard other people say without actually thinking about what the words mean.

1. Same sex marriage is already legal in the United States. Not one state has made it agaist the law for homosexuals to get married. The only legislation that has been presented and/or passed has been to state only that homosexual marriage will not be treated equal to heterosexual marriage.

2. Treating homosexual marriage equal to het-marriage does not say that ANYTHING is ok. It is following the Constitution of the United States that declares all people are created equal. The slipery slope theory is dishonest and discriminatory. You should find better role models to "parrot." Anything and Everything isn't the same thing as equal rights.

3. How does gay marriage mess up family life? Aren't heterosexuals doing that just fine without us? In case you haven't noticed, more than half of all marriages end in divorce. Most of those "familys" had chidren involved. Gay people had nothing to do with those statistics. How does having more people married hurt family life?

4. People are coming out because it is no longer acceptable for gay people to be miserable and pretend to be something that they aren't... just to make people like you feel better. Natural? The make-up you wear isn't natural, but you do it. The car you travel faster than a human can walk/run isn't natural, but you use it. Air conditioning isn't natural, but you use it. Television/Radio/Movies aren't natural, but I'm sure you enjoy modern entertainment... even if for only "holy" purposes. Natural isn't a good enough reason to deny a group of people equal rights. Unless you are living like an Amish person, you have no business telling anybody else that something unnatural isn't right. Get over yourself.

4. Violence and Laziness are in no way related to homosexual behavior. Please do not try to blame that on homosexuals. In my city, more than half of all the police calls are for domestic violence among heterosexual couples. How is that the fault of homosexuality. The fact that straight people can't figure out how to get along is NO reason to deny gay people equal rights.

5. In a free society there is no such thing as the government giving too much freedom. The government represents ALL of us, not just those who are too uptight to do anything other than sit in judgement of others. Your claim of not hating is a sinful lie. Your words and arguments against homosexual marriages being treated equally under the law are obviously just excuses for bigotry and hate. Spread your lies someplace else.

If you really cared at all about "familys and children," you wouldn't be fussing about gay rights, you would be demanding that your legislaters present and pass legislation that prohibits divorce. You would be demanding that those who are divorced would not be able to remarry. You would be demanding that unwed mothers be penalized for having children out of wedlock. You would be insisting that any spouse/child abuser who is convicted would not be allowed to get married ever again. You would demand that people who have been convicted of child abuse would not be allowed to have more children.

None of those things interest you. It is FAR more important to spend all your time and attention insisting that two gay people not be allowed to get married and have it treated equal under the law than it is to really fix the problems with society.

Quit trying to blame all your problems on gay people and try to solve some of them... then come to me and tell me that you have the answers for me.

IF YOU BELIEVE GAY MARRIAGE IS WRONG...

DON'T MARRY A GAY PERSON!

Leave the rest of us alone.

Answer 6

There is no difference at all, except that one is legal and accepted by society and especially our president, and the other is legal in only a few places and under constant attack, especialyy by the prez.

If we don't vote out the homophobic politicians who uphold this discrimination, things will never change.
So everyone reading this question, get out and vote in your local, state, and national elections.

Answer 7

i think the only dofference is the obvious one which is that instead of 2 people of the opposite sex its 2 people of the same sex. although i do think it should be legal i understand why its not. its new, different, and strange to people because not everyone is used to it. people are afraid of what they dont understand, and not everyone is openminded. so we just have to deal until change comes .and it will soon bevause the world is changing everyday

Answer 8

i was always raised and told that there was a separation of church and state. well this is one good example of that not being the case.

the love I have for my partner is no different that the love between my hetero friends. Actually I lie, my relationship has lasted alot longer than most of my str8 friends.

Answer 9

I don't really see any difference at all. I think it should be made legal, it's discrimination to tell someone they cannot marry based on their sexual preference.

Answer 10

i dont think there is any difference at all.....its up to people who they want to marry and we should not deny them there right to live happily married with the one they love...