What's the relevance of marriage?

Question

Marriage vows today are like sinking sand. People say, "I do" and in a blink of an eye, they're filing for divorce. I might sound jaded but marriage is no longer sacred. Now, there's same sex marriage. I'm straight up orthox on this issue. No broke back mountain here. Men and women constitute a marriage. Not men on men or women on women. If you're gay please don't take offense to what I'm saying. I'm not a homo-phob. I'm just expressing an opinion. Thanks. Comments? ( I can see this coming.)

Answer 1

Marriage is ordained by God not man.
But man has forgotten (or chosen to ignore) this fact.
Same sex marriage will NEVER be approved by God. I am not a homophob either but show me in the Bible where God has approved of same sex marriages.

Answer 2

I agree completely with daljack.

Even when I was little I said, "I will get married twice. The first one will be all messed up and wrong. The second will be better, because I will have previous experience."

It was more expesive to get a divorce ($500) than it was to get married (about $70). No kids. That is where the commitment comes in. Don't have or adopt kids until you are ready for commitment.

I am engaged, but instead of a few months, this engagement period will last a few years. I am going to have kids with this person and we will be together forever reguardless of the paper, simply because we will work hard at the relationship, never give up, and we have stuff in common and enjoy each other's companionship.

I am doing it this time because
1) I don't like the word "fiance", it sounds snobby, don't you think? 2) insurance for the other
3) same last names at a discount (oposed to just a "name change")
4) good excuse to get gifts and take a cruise
5) the pictures, because we are both pretty plain...it would be nice to see us all done up and in front of blue water!
6) in case something should happen to me, I want him to have control of me and my stuff, trust
7) To have the pretty piece of paper in a frame next to the pictures of us that says "Cancun" or some other exotic place on it
8) We both forgot when we met. This way we will have the forms to remind us of the special day it was official.
9) To show other's our commitment to each other.

Marriage no longer has anything to do with god. We plan to take that mystical creature out of our vows completely. He might be replaces with Sponge Bob. :)

Answer 3

In traditional times it was meant to lock people in to an agreement which were often tied in with politics, land, finances and religion even though if you were middle class or above it was likely you had a mistress at some point. Marriages are down because people realize they don't have to be in destructive relationships like their predecessors. Women are capable of being independent so they're no longer finacially pressured to continue in destructive relationships.

For the sake of everyone, when it comes to families I think we should switch to that of a matriarical socieity. In matriarical socieities the mother and her family always rear the children while the father chooses his level of involvement in the child's life. No matter what happens to the child's parents there is always a support system to back the child up of several close knit family members living in a single large household. Single people go to a party where they meet up and "marry" each other and then the male comes and stays with the wife at night most every night. If the two wish for a "divorce" then the either the male stops showing up to the household or the female closes the door of her house to him. This example comes from a tribe I studied while in china.

Answer 4

My brother is gay, but I don't take offense. You are right about the sacredness of marriage being lost though. Everyone seems to think it is some kind of game now. With children or without; no one wants to do the work that needs to be put into a marriage. Any relationship takes work. Why would people think that the person you vow to spend the rest of your life with, would be any easier? Anyways, my view on gay marriage is so be it. Marriage in heart is to be with a single person; share your life together; have a companion to journey through the happy and sad times. Everyone just thinks of the sexual part of that. I know it is really looked down upon by the church; I understand why, but don't people realize that usually what you protest is only going to make it worse? I am not for, nor against, but I do believe everyone needs that one person to walk in life with. When a partner is dying in the hospital and the other is banned from seeing him; that is wrong. Sorry; tend to ramble.

Answer 5

I TOTALLY agree with you.

People is taking marriage too lightly, because they don't see it as it is: sacred.

Maybe it is because lack of family values or lack of God in their family or both. The thing is that they no longer think marriage is forever.

I'm a Christian too and straight, I'm not a homophobic either, and I respect everybody no matter what, but marriage is between a man and a woman and that's it. That's the way it is, that's the way God, our Creator, intended for us and ultimately it's the natural thing. Such thing like same sex marriage is not natural at all, and yes it is a sin, as divorcing is a sin too.

Divorce, according to the bible, is allowed under certain extreme circumstances like when there's violence or abuse or one of the spouses cheats on the other and only if they cannot stay together, because forgiveness is still there and it's up to the couple.

Answer 6

I still believe in marriage and I agree it should be between a man and a woman. Call me old fashioned but I waited and i did NOT settle simply for the sake of being married. I think most people get married for the wrong reasons like: wanting to have a great party, thinking they're getting old, not knowing their partners well enough.
I happen to be happily married to a wonderful guy who also happens to be my best friend and who's company I enjoy immensely.
We both believe that we will be together until one of us or both of us die. We feel very saddened by people who don't even know what love is and who go through life without ever experiencing what we have. So to answer your question from my point of few, the relevance of marriage is "commitment", perseverance and respect for one another. I hope you will not give up until you find your other half!!! Good luck

Answer 7

The problem is that people don't have to work at anything. Our society says it's okay to leave for no reason. No commitment, honesty, or trust. It's all about what makes that person feel good, to the exclusion of everyone and everything else. People get mad at their partner and they go find someone else. It's messed up but that's how it is. As for the gay marriages, I don't really care. I mean, as long as they're not bothering anyone, what's the problem. To each their own. Peace :)

Answer 8

I'm with you, "brother?", Everythng is so expendable nowadays, "Marriage" included. " I do " means," O.K., if it works out." Otherwise, we can get a new one. People are assho_es. And as for "same-sex marriage"? No such thing. God made Adam with Eve, not Steve. Sacred? You must be a fool! There is nothing "Sacred". Not with the bunch of idiots we're dealing with! "Sinking Sand." How true. How sad. Don't worry too much. Truth is coming. And what you correctly see coming is pure, Satan bullshit.

Answer 9

I know that people like me a rare these days, but I got married to spend the rest of my life with the one that I love and to work things out if times get tough.
As for gay marriage, why not??? If you are committed enough to one another, then I'm all for it!!! Most gay marriages last longer than standards do, I guess cause they have to fight harder to get there in the first place!
It's too easy to walk away from a marriage these days, why not make it harder???

Answer 10

so true, marriage may be for some people but for me it's not necessary. i have a boyfriend. he is the father of my baby. he wants to be with me so why mess up a good thing. i don't want to be divorced by age 22. marriage is like a big joke because nobody sees it as sacred these days except for the religious buffs. But even they get divorces so what the f*ck. we live in such a hypocritical society. As for marriage between gays I say it's not necessary.

Answer 11

For me marriage is a legal contract to protect our daughter and to allow each of us to have a voice in decision-making if/when we can't. We lived together for 6 years and then when we decided to have a child we got married. We don't feel anymore committed than we did before we got married, but because of legalities it made it better for our daughter. We've been married 30 years now. My parents 60 years,,,,my siblings 20, 25, 18. So you see marriage does work you just have to find the right person for you.

I believe everyone who chooses should be able to enter into this legal contract we call marriage regardless of their sexual orientation