Looking & acting are completly different...Am i the Only secure woman left???Don't doubt yourself-you are in no competition w/ guys looking at others-most,harmless nature.
2006-07-18 15:00:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OMG girl I completely agree. I thought that I was the only girl that thought there was nothing wrong with that. Thank you god for another girl that is not so self-consious that she is constantly worried that looking or thinking leads to touching!
2006-07-18 15:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Looking and acting ARE NOT completely different... it is based on if this 'act' is driven by lust! If your spouse is looking at other women and thinking about doing things with that person - or if he is looking at porn - then he is committing adultery against you.
I imagine that some women dislike this because they are insecure... but you can't just say "no big deal - it's just the way guys are..." Just because we live in an immoral society doesn't mean we should conform to the lifestyle that is considered normal.
Plus... everything starts somewhere - and if you just shrug off this completely demeaning habit then it is more than likely it will cause problems in your relationship elsewhere...in the present and definitely future. All problems escalate if they are not considered harmful to ones being - and honestly why do you think that the porn industry is making trillions!? BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE ADDICTED!!! And I don't think anyone can classify an "addiction" as a healthy part of human nature.
2006-07-18 22:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, guys are not blind, and beauty is for people to admire it.
If women can't stand a man just looking, then won't be able to stand any man, it's in their nature, men are visual, and come on, just looking is harmless, as long as it's that.
Women need to be more secure about themselves. The guy is already with them and that means he wants to be with them, being jealous for stupid things is sort of paranoia. Women should relax and trust more in themselves and their worth.
2006-07-18 22:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by Armerys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad always said the day a guy stops looking is the day they put him six feet under. There is a big difference between looking at women and looking for them. My wife knows that I look and she is ok with it. All guys do. You may think they don't but they do. Its natural. Making a big deal only means he will hide it better. After all, we are married, not gay.
2006-07-18 22:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at other "beauties" is a whole different story then looking at porn and I don't think it has anything to do with being insecure. It has to do with respect. My husband respects me and our daughter enough that he doesn't watch women being demeaned and humiliated. He's not a saint he likes looking at pretty women but not while a guy is shooting "body fluids" on her face.
2006-07-18 22:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't bother me at all. i haven't been with my boyfriend for that long, but i know that he has a ton of friends...most of which are girls. i would never tell him that he can't see these people anymore, because who am i to tell him that he's not allowed to see his friends that he's had for many years? it would just bring the relationship down the toilet drain.
and as for porn, i don't mind watching it sometimes myself!
i think some other guys are goodlooking (of course), but i'm not going to act on it, so i don't see anything wrong with my boyfriend thinking another woman is attractive.
2006-07-18 22:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you think it makes you secure to let your man go around with his tongue hanging out like a dog every time he sees something he likes better than you? If they don't know any better than that where would it stop if they had the chance? I know I deserve more respect than that. Yes I know they all look, but they don't have to be rude to their partners. I haven't dated or been married to any man who thinks it's okay for me to look at hot men in front of them. I deserve the same respect.
2006-07-18 22:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am bothered by it but do not consider myself insecure. Yes, I am not in competition and if he wanted someone else he might leave, but it is disrespectful when a man is blatantly ogling other women and complimenting them and not you. I do not look at others and expect the same consideration.
2006-07-18 22:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not the only secure woman left.... I have no idea why chicks freak when their men are lookin at me..My man doesn't freak..and I don't freak when he's checkin out their chicks... Its all good.. I mean, if you aren't secure enough in your relationship that checkin out another one of Gods beauties is gonna ruin your day, then there are obviously other issues.
2006-07-18 22:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it makes most women jelouse because women want to be the only one that there man looks at. I , Like you dont really care. Women need to be more secure with them selves and know that if there man didnt want them they wouldnt still be there.They would be with somone else... Yelling at them for looking isnt going to help.
2006-07-18 22:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by kreepyemily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree with Brian. Big difference between looking at women & looking for women. Looking, by itself, is not a problem. It becomes a problem when he seeks physical contact with another woman.
2006-07-18 22:09:39 · answer #11 · answered by Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋