He doesn't love me anymore but sees divorce as stupid. I gave my all being into this marriage without a sec of regret. After weeks of trying to reason with him, he said that we should stay together but seeing other people as these are modern times and me longing for love is childlish and unreasonable b/c all men are the same and want "new" women even though they found and married the one? Translated: why leaving him when I will find just another man that will cheat on me. Underlined: there is no such thing as love anymore. Does love exist?
2006-07-18 14:48:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its guys like me who hate pinheads like that, they give all guys a bad name, i traveled across canada to find my true love ,and i found her, i didnt think it was possible either, cause ive been hurt so many times,but weve been married now going on for 11 years, and were so happy its unreal, im very faithfull to my wife as she is me,nothing or nobody could come between us,if i were you girl, throw his sorry *** out the door, and move on, you deserve better.
2006-07-19 01:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because *he* sees divorce as stupid, doesn't mean that it is. You need to do what's right for you now. You've given him everything (which is not always a good thing, you need something left for yourself), but he doesn't seem to care.
Sounds like the real reason he doesn't want a divorce is because he's got it good at home. There's someone who gives him her all (you), plus he can go screw around with other women if he wants. Where's the mutual benefit? Doesn't really sound like there's much of a reason to stay.
Yes, love does exist, just not with him. If you do leave him and find another man who ends up cheating on you, then you've looked in the wrong place or haven't paid attention to the warning signs.
On the flip side, some couples do enjoy and even thrive in "the lifestyle" (as swinging is sometimes referred to now), or even in a polyamorous relationship (not the same as swinging). Perhaps one of these options may work?
Explore all your options, then decide. (Sounds like this guy is pretty selfish though, and may not be worth keeping)
2006-07-18 22:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Dion V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love definitely does exist, but NOT with this jerk!! He is an a**hole that doesn't want to pay you anything once you are divorced! And he is sooooooooooo WRONG that all guys are like him and want other women even after getting married! There are some men like that, but not all of them are.
I was married to/with a guy for 20 long years that was like your husband: lied, cheated, thought that it was his right to cheat on the one he was married to, etc. He believes with all of his heart, soul, and whole being that it is his right. I left him and divorced him. I have since then found true love with the guy I plan to marry soon. He loves, respects, and cherishes me, treats me like a goddess, doesn't believe in adultery (while married or unmarried), doesn't believe in yelling at others or harming anyone (unless they try to harm me or his daughters), etc. He is my soul mate! I am his! We have each other on pedestals and won't let each other come down. This is love, respect, kindness, etc. This is what everyone deserves.
I am trying to tell you that you deserve soooooooooooo much better than that loser you are with. Leave him. Divorce him. Get rid of his a** and don't look back. Move on. In time, you will get your self worth and self esteem back, then go and find someone sooooooooooo much better than the loser you are with now. He is saying these things to you just to keep from having to pay you anything or to admit that he is wrong and you are right.
2006-07-18 21:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a commitment between TWO people... if he wants others to be involved then the marriage should be terminated FIRST! I feel very sorry for you... nothing is worse than placing all of your trust, hopes, dreams and love in the care of another just to have them destroy everything. As difficult as it will be, and I'm speaking from experience, you should gather up the pieces and start fresh. Don't believe him when he says that other men will cheat and that love doesnt exist... that is just a tactic for control. Don't wait for him to initiate the first move on this... just his saying this is enough to let you know there are better things out there for you... good luck! Be strong...
2006-07-18 21:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. he's to funny.. does he actually got u believing this garbage??? NOT ALL MEN CHEAT.. let me rephrase that REAL MEN DONT CHEAT.. REAL MEN realize what they are doing when they get married and own up to and live by the vows theyve take, your husband is trying to tear u down and get u to believe that all men are this way so he can have an excuse to cheat on you.. THIS IS JUST AN EXCUSE NOT REALITY.. yes unfortunately there seems to be more immature men out in the world then real men but there are REAL men if u actually look for them.. Dont put up with his lies.. and excuses .. tell him that NO he cant have a relationship with any other woman.. that if he wants that, then he has to leave the marriage first.. dont let ur man treat u like your a complete idiot.. stand up for yourself and if he wants out let him go.. u deserve a man that is going to respect and love you.. this is a classic case of a little boy trapped in a mans body..
2006-07-18 21:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love does exist and there are men out their who do not cheat. You just haven't found the right man!
It would be up to you if you wanted to stay with him rather than divorce while he sees other women, and while he is encouraging you to see other men. How comfortable will you be with that?
2006-07-18 21:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce his *** and find you a real man. the only reason he doesnt believe in "divorce" is because hes scared to go out on his own. this way he keeps you on the side in case he doesn't find someone better. keep longing for love. it does exist. my grandparents were married 40 years before my pap passed away. my parents celebrated 27 years this june. my great aunt and uncle hit 60 years this year. i fully believe love exists and i think you should go find it. don't think that if you leave him another man will cheat on you. your husband is a dog. i hope that you will find the strength to leave him and find a better love. good luck to you.
2006-07-18 21:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by ravinskye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that love does exist and you should to. LOVE yourself because no one can do it better than you. i do believe that you should leave this man though cause sooner or later hes gonna start acting ignant. i bet you probaly feel like you just wasted hella time in that relationship but make up for it by not wasting any more time, cause the time we have on earth is precious
2006-07-18 21:55:13 · answer #8 · answered by Beau-Ti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl your man is stupid. You divorce him. There is someone out there that is going to treat you like a queen. Love is out there.
2006-07-18 21:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by OneLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never believed in love. I have never told my bf of nearly 6 years that I love him. I have unconditional love for my family, but no love for my bf or any other man that has come in and out of my life. Love Stinks!!!!1
2006-07-18 21:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by LostIndian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋